Guys I need some advice :( my boyfriend started smoking weed again and I’m really nervous about what to do about it because I have set very clear boundaries about it. My OCD was induced by marijuana and I have ptsd correlated to that, so I have those boundaries for a reason. Now I’m very anxious because he’s out with his friends and smoking after we had many conversations about it not being around for at least while I’m doing treatment for my OCD and ptsd. What do I do? I don’t want to breakup with him but I do not want to be forced to back down on these boundaries because my mental health is important.

Yeah it’s tough because I don’t want to be controlling! I just don’t want it around during my treatment because I’m so sensitive it triggers an episode every time. Just confused on how to approach it :/

Thank you for this advice though.

@serenity Yeah true. I guess I have to stand my ground pretty strongly.

He’s not inconsiderate I just think he doesn’t understand the weed part well enough? He’s very aware of my OCD and how it affects me for now, and works around it and is completely understanding. I talked to him about how it shouldn’t be around while I do treatment because I’m trying to recover and don’t want to be sucked back into a lifestyle I don’t want. It’s weird because he agreed so strongly that he doesn’t want it back into his life, but the second his friends came around he considered it again. Just so stuck :( I love him very much and he’s usually NEVER like this like that’s why I’m so confused as what to do because he’s so kind and understanding but he slipped up for the first time in like months and it’s just hard trying to gauge how to handle it.

@serenity Yeah that’s true. I’m probably going to head to his tonight and get to the bottom of it. It’s definitely not okay and just has me in a whirlwind of anxiety.

I did once before and told him that I just don’t have room for it anymore in my life and he agreed. So I guess that’s why I’m so confused? I texted him today about it after he told me and he said he wasn’t smoking but considered it but now he won’t because of how I expressed that it’s a red flag for me.

@charleejadeg well that’s good! so he respects your limits?

@ocdm.7 He does! I just feel so bad because I thought he said he already smoked and that’s what he meant yano? But I guess he JUSR was being honest with me in the fact that he considered it which I respect just hard right now to not be anxious ugh.

@charleejadeg i get yiu