- Date posted
- 4y
- Date posted
- 4y
Hey! I’m so sorry for your loss. I know that death is something very hard to deal with. I don’t think that you are being dramatic about feeling anxious about going back to the house. Of course you are going to be emotional, and that’s ok🤍. You should definitely attend your churches grief counseling seminar this Saturday if the time permits. I think it will be a great way to prepare yourself emotionally before your visit next month. I hope you get better, and that you family has a safe trip next month. God Bless.
- Date posted
- 4y
Thank you so much for the kind words 💛
- Date posted
- 4y
@Evelyn4416 You are so welcome🤍
- Date posted
- 4y
I’m sorry to hear that. My grandad passed away in may and we were very lucky to be by his side during covid and I really struggled dealing with it. It ended making my ocd worse. Things will get better soon. If you ever want to message me privately you are more than welcome to.
- Date posted
- 4y
Thank you so much and my condolences to you and your family 💛
- Date posted
- 4y
@Evelyn4416 Thanks my condolences to you and your family.
- Date posted
- 4y
Hey. I had something kind of similar with my Gramma, I was the only family member who wasn’t present when she passed and I was severely ill for several months afterwards so I felt like I never really managed to process her death, and by the time I was functioning again everyone else had kind of done their initial grieving and I didn’t know how to start. I couldn’t go to her house, couldn’t even call my Grampa for a couple years because it was all so overwhelming. Just in the last month I’ve managed to start texting him again. It’s still hard. I miss her and feel disconnected from her and from the mutual grieving the rest of my family got to do.
Related posts
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 24w
I lost my brother almost a month ago. if feels like it was yesterday. my biggest worry is when i snap out of the denial stage of this grief , that i’m going to lose my mind. it’s a scary feeling and i don’t know what to do. i’m still in therapy and don’t plan on stopping either but i just worry. i’ve cried here and there but all ive done is keep myself busy and distracted from this. i have my moments - i just am in such disbelief.
- Date posted
- 24w
Hi everyone. Definitely not feeling great these past couple days. I struggle with ROCD and have been trying to navigate that for a long time. I have a relationship that means a lot to me with a boyfriend that is extremely special and kind and we laugh together so much and it really is the best. However, there are some times where he has been destructive, not in a serious way, but just as a coping mechanism, like drinking, and going out with friends. I think for me, I come from a childhood where one of my parents struggles with drinking, and I know how much of a toll I can put on the family. Me and my boyfriend are not there, but I definitely project a lot of these things onto him and it really fuels my ROCD. He really started doing this more in our relationship once his mom passed away very suddenly almost a year ago. I think I’m starting to become nervous because the anniversary of her death is next month, and I can sort of feel myself starting to self sabotage. I’m kind of nitpicking certain things, miss reading his moods, and things like that. I can definitely tell that it’s just me trying to protect my fear of abandonment. But I’m just really having a hard time because I’m so scared that things are gonna be hard again, we went through a lot when she first died. Our relationship has grown so much since she did, and we’re at a very good place. I did feel myself starting a fight last night, and that just made this morning feel pretty terrible. If anyone has experienced something similar, that would be helpful. Please be kind, I think I just need some grace right now and some hope I guess.
- Date posted
- 16w
Hello everyone, I hope you are all doing well! I lost my dad yesterday and me having ocd since I was 7, it just skyrocketed. Yesterday it was difficult for sure, but I didn’t have any intrusive thoughts about self harm. It all happened suddenly when I was half asleep (trying to sleep even though it was really hard), were I feel as if a switch turned on in my brain and out of nowhere I started feeling angry. I recognised at that moment that I was not angry but that’s what my brain was telling me. And that’s when I had an intrusive thought of harming my mom came to my mind and immediately after that came the thought of harming myself. And it stuck. I know grief can make these themes pop up, but what if this is all real and not ocd? I’m scared. I acknowledge I don’t have thoughts in my head of planning to harm myself, it’s just a feeling that this is going to happen. Now letting my thoughts out brings me relief, even sometimes this intrusive thoughts bring me relief (that is very scary), but ocd makes me so pessimistic, and that I’m doomed in life and the sad life my dad had will also be mine as well. There are moments where I feel hope and relief, but it doesn’t last for long. As if I’m so so sure that this is going to happen. And me having magical thinking ocd doesn’t help either. Grief is hard, sometimes I cry, other times I laugh with my friends and family, but those moments I laugh is when I get terrified ( I read people who have made up the decision to (you know) are happy and laugh. Anyways, I’ve talked to my mom about it, she’s super supportive of me restarting therapy and even though she’s struggling with grief, she’s always there to listen to me and give me all the comfort I need. But I informed her about the thoughts the moment the popped up. Just so that she knows and can save me because I don’t trust myself at all. Sorry for this huge rumble, but I’d really appreciate your advice. I’m scared and so not ready to start therapy (at one hand I don’t want to, it feels such a chore, but I know I need to get help). I’m very pessimistic at the moment and I feel no one can convince me that I’ll get better. I think my future life, and it brings me this warm nice feeling and then it is followed by the thought that this will never happen. And because I have magical thinking ocd, and my uni exams have just started, I had this feeling that this exam season will be endless and it’s never going to end. Guess what, I’m probably going to just take one exam out of three (my mind is like you see, this thought and feeling came true) and that’s where I get super pessimistic. Okay, I’ll shut up for now, please give me some advice on how you try to manage your thoughts and what to do for now. Take care ❤️
Be a part of the largest OCD Community
Share your thoughts so the Community can respond