I can’t do it. My parents want me to attend mass this Sunday for my dads bday but I literally can’t. I hated growing up there and being forced to go for 17 yrs of my life. I have so many bad memories and just imagining being there again makes my skin crawl it makes me so uncomfortable. I don’t want to disappoint my dad but at the same time I don’t think it’s fair of them to ask me (an atheist) to attend a service that makes me extremely uncomfortable.

Maybe you could just tell them what you said here. You aren't trying to disappoint anyone, but you just don't feel comfortable going. Maybe you could meet them all for lunch after or do something else to celebrate. Remember no matter what your parents say you aren't forced into going and if it disappoints them or they say anything that is their issues. You have to do what makes you comfortable!

Also not trying to tell you what to do, but I will say to try and look at it from your dads perspective. He really wants his daughter there. You know? If it’s too much it’s too much but I would say atleast consider going just for family’s sake. You only get so many good memories you know?

I don't want to tell you what to do but you should do what makes you comfortable for yourself not for others I am agnostic and was raised catholic my mom tries to shove religion down my throat ever since my grandpa died but I try to just live my life for my self not my parent just like someone would if they didnt want to go to college and there parents did or like if they didnt like that there kid was gay but they still have pride in there orientation whats causing ocd badly about church whats the theme maybe I can help