Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

It’s been 8 weeks since I left a toxic relationship. I’m trying to refrain from going on social media and checking his photos etc . This is hard . We were together for three years and he was so controlling and paranoid. Towards the end he literally made fun of my ocd . My cat passed away and my ocd flared up . Once he saw I was at my lowest, instead of consoling me , he became cruel . Can someone just say to me , he sounds like toxic . I need someone to talk too . I don’t mind telling my story

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

I’m here to listen. He definitely sounds like an ass. Very rude and toxic of him for sure.

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

Thank you . We met at work and Three years ago and he was jealous of every guy there . Please keep in mind he was in his late 30’s then . He thought every time I went to the bathroom, someone was following me. He was also an alcoholic . Two years ago, I helped him get sober . He even said I was the only person in his life that cared enough to push him to go to AA. Towards the end of the relationship, things got worse . I wasn’t perfect and I was mean at times but it was bc I didn’t have the courage to end the relationship and I was tired of being accused of doing something with a guy , whenever I went to the bathroom

hiii

Date posted: 4y

He shows very toxic traits and i am incredibly sorry you had to go through that! Do you think he might've had paranoid personality disorder? Either way you made the right decision by leaving the relationship, I'm so proud of you for doing that <3 make sure to surround yourself with people who love and care about you and your well-being, you are so strong for going through everything and so is everyone on this app!! No one should ever make fun of mental illnesses, especially when they effect one's life so I'm very digusted that he made fun on your OCD but you'll start to see positive outcomes in your life because usually after cutting toxic people out of your life, you start to feel a bit more better and more free from the draining energy. I hope things start getting better!! Stay safe

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

Thank you so much :)

Danielle22

Date posted: 4y

I been there ! My ex was so toxic to and manipulated me told me he wanted to die this n that n had drinking problems n accused me of always cheating your so strong !!

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

Thank you . It was so hard and I helped him so much to get sober . I did not expect anything in return but once he was sober , he was more angry and paranoid . Every day I was being accused . Every day I dealt with his paranoia . But of course, he did not want to deal with my ocd . He was so selfish .

Danielle22

Date posted: 4y

Some times we think we can fix ppl but we can’t the most important thing we can do is love ourselves and the rest falls into place I’m proud of you

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

You are right . I was trying to fix him . I’m just feeling really sad

Danielle22

Date posted: 4y

Time will heal all I was so sad now it’s been 9 months and he’s just a memory . Feelings will fade . Loneliness does happen to me at times but there is so much more to life than a boyfriend and your menta Heath is always number 1

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

Thank you fir your response . It’s been 8 weeks since I broke it off with him . Am I a horrible person if I said I hope he is suffering just as much as me ?

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

I called him a lot and he was mean to say “ I called him like a fool” . He would imitate me if I had an ocd question

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

Eventually I ended things and told him I need to focus on my ocd . He made me feel so guilty

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

You shouldn’t feel bad about ending things . At the end of the day you have to put yourself first.

gummipawbz

Date posted: 4y

i dont have any advice at the moment but, Im so proud of u for ending things

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

Thank you . But I hate myself for missing him . I should not miss him

gummipawbz

Date posted: 4y

@Anonymous Its normal to miss people who hurt you, dont hate yourself, you can miss him for a bit but know that you're wayyy better off without him

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

@gummipawbz Thank you . I know he was an unhappy person before I met him and I am sorry , I hope he continues to be unhappy .

Danielle22

Date posted: 4y

No that’s normal in the beggining your mad than you’ll miss him than he will become a memory

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