im worried about my sister this isnt really related to my ocd but i thought it would be safe to vent here... shes taken a bunch of pills before a few years ago a sort of cry for help ... she was physically abused by our father growing up and i think he might be a narcisist because he directed all his rage at her i was definitely not treated as badly ... we all stayed a close family though but very toxic like way too involved in each others lives for a family with a history that we have and would just pretend the bad times werent that bad and go on family trips and even have really good times together (even though i know that sounds crazy) we just learned to adapt to the family we were given 🤷‍♀️ this past year we both quit our jobs and moved back home (3 years after the incident with the pills) shes been extremly depressed never leaving her room or rarely but whats worse is i think shes home seeking justice for her childhood she says she has no plan to leave even though our childhood home makes her worse and she wants to wallow in her trauma and make my parents relive it and i think she wants my dad to pay for what he did to her and take responsibility and she wants us all to accept that but the thing is she played 3 sports growing up and played basketball in college she got a phd in physical therapy her depression and anxiety and being on the spectrum a bit have made things challenging for her along with how my father treated her but shes a capable kind person who i know has had a bad hand dealt to her but she has had a lot of great things in her life as well and good friends but instead she views herself as broken and shes mad at not just my parents but our extended family for not adopting her and taking her away from our family when they shouldve and im her younger sister so im the only one she doesnt blame or hate for her life but i take on a lot of responsibility trying to make her okay and i know i cant do that but shes starting to really worry me ... my god father tried to talk with her the other night telling her she could stay with him in florida and away from my dad but instead of being happy about that shes shut down even more and was kind of having an adult temper tantrum saying we cant fix her and leave her alone let me watch tv all day... she also went cold turkey on her antidepressents and says things like i just go to therapy to appease you guys i know its not working and idk like me and my mom want to take her to an outpatient facility and pay for expensive care for her but she wont even do that shes 31 years old and im 28 and im definitely trying to leave my parents house but i dont want to leave her behind and its hard to tell what to do? like i know my father is in the wrong and our childhoods shouldve been better but she could leave and find support elsewhere and cut him off but instead shes doing this self torture by living with him again as an adult i know her depression makes it hard to function but i also know she can function better than this so like what does somebody do? being in this environment makes my ocd worse but because of my dad and my sister most of my focus goes on them would love words of wisdom and comfort from anybody right now 🙏🙏🙏🙏