This isnt exactly OCD related, but you guys are the best with advice so if someone could help me with this itd be much appreciated! I've been with my bf for a year, and I dont wanna be with him anymore. He doesnt help me with my OCD much, he doesnt have similar morals to me, and he acts like one of "the boys 🥶‼." Its getting exhausting, he's not what I want anymore. It feels like he's holding me back from what I want, not that he is, I would just feel more free being single. Hes nice, but not what I want anymore. I've been feeling like this since March, and I've attempted to break up with him but he wont accept that I want to. I've told him what I get offended by of what he does and he argues with me about it. I told him about my OCD and he said it happens to everyone. I dread talking to him, and calling him gets really tiring. Almost always after I talk to him I have a new worry. I just want to leave him but it's like he wont let me. I want to be free you know. Hes sweet, but he doesnt take into account how I feel. It makes me feel stupid for saying this because I imagined a whole life with him, but now I just wanna be single again. If we could stay friends it would be so much better, I hate feeling tied to him you know. Any advice? I dont want to hurt him, I just wanna be myself again.

My best advice is just to be straight with him and tell him you want to break up. If you can manage to be friends that’s great but right now you need to focus on your mental health. I know it must be tough breaking up with someone, but I feel being straight to the point is the best option

I’m so sorry that you’re in an uncomfortable situation where you feel you cannot express yourself and be heard. Earlier this year I just got out of an extremely toxic friendship with a person who wouldn’t listen to my feelings, just laugh at them or treat me like I was crazy. I tried to break it off in a way multiple times, but they wouldn’t let it go, and kept sending me things, and messaging me baiting questions. All I know is that we all deserve to be around people who lift us up. If you don’t feel like you are being lifted up, then why put yourself through the worry and stress of being around him. I’m young, and I don’t have experience with relashonships, but what I do know is we all deserve to be with someone who makes us happy. Don’t ever let anyone make you question your sanity. After my toxic friendship I had to realize that I wasn’t crazy, or dramatic, I had feelings, and that person wasn’t letting me have them. Now I don’t know if this is toxic or not, I’m not in this relahsonship so at the end of the day idk, but I hope this helps. Chase whatever makes you happy, so if being single would make you happy, then break it off. 💗

Move somewhere you’ve always wanted to go and enjoy your life, you only get one and in a year from now you’ll be in a totally different place!! Good vibes!!

You can do it!