This app can be extremely counterproductive for people with SOOCD. Not the app itself, but the community. I have been in the position where I posted constantly looking for “clarification” (cough cough reassurance) about my sexuality in terms of porn, nudes, whatever, all day and night. It’s incredibly unhealthy. I urge you, listen to the app when it tells you you’ve already posted 4x in 24 hours and it’s becoming a compulsion. Using this app to post every fear and thought I’ve had about my sexuality is no better than reddit or quora and certainly only reinforced my ocd. Take care of yourself and realize when it’s time to delete the app or take a vacation. This comes from a place of love, you will not get better using this app as a crutch.

But it’s hard when it’s OCD LOL. But the forums only reinforce that there is a threat. When there isn’t.

@sheeby Totally. And it’s so nice to be with a bunch of people who share your fears and have similar stories. But I feel like it gets harmful when people pile together and just reassurance/trigger one another. I was a reddit addict, found this app, and then started doing the same thing on here. Meanwhile I was like wow therapy sucks, I’m not getting better, not realizing my real problem

@wellwellwell That’s good you’re realizing it... I’m in therapy and my biggest compulsion is actually this app. I check it so often. Definitely has to stop.

@sheeby I’ve noticed I’ll go on here and actually rile myself up by reading people with ocd and their worries. I think when I’m ready this could be good exposure, but it’s not great right now

@wellwellwell Yes those were my original fears wth this app... I was afraid of like getting someone else’s fear. So I was like this is good exposure, but now because I see how everyone thinks, I’m noticing I’m developing those same toxic traits of throwing tantrums when no one responds, feeling anxious bc no one likes or commented bc they didn’t relate... etc. I started putting a time limit on the app now tho. So maybe that’ll help you get it on with.

^^^^^ stay off forums and quizzes and articles. The people writing them have no idea who you are or your struggles. Trust as someone who’s taken every sexuality quiz on the planet and always having it come back as straight it will do nothing for you except make you think you’re lying to yourself.

@Madeline I also think all the nuances of sexuality should be embraced. I think a lot of the thinking on this app is black and white in terms of sexuality

@wellwellwell Well I also believe tjag people with OCD read into signs too much. Oh he was nice to me and it felt good... what if I’m attracted to him and I’m gay. Or the other way around. there is an anxiety issue here, regardless of content, no one is capabale of accepting the “idk”.

@sheeby I realized how crazy it was when I got cheating ocd and was afraid of wanting to have sex with every guy. I was like I can’t both super into men and into women, maybe it’s all ocd

@wellwellwell Yep. It’s all this evidence evidence yadda yadda. OCD feeds you lies, and that’s simply it.

@wellwellwell Exactly. It’s like you have to be bi or gay, and each time you can only be with the sex that you don’t want to be with. Nothing else

@Madeline Yes I dealt with this very hard. Struggling with being bi. I dated a few girls when I was younger, but I realized I was just misreading attraction at a young age. So what? May scare somebody with SOOCD because they’re afraid they’re in the wrong place, YES. Are they? Probably not but they’ll question it so hard because people with OCD are self proclaimed philosophers. The think they can answer everything mf, rather they want to. Sexuality is fluid because attraction is literally fliud. Some men can’t control their boners. Isn’t that kind of funny? Revisiting the caveman and attraction is kind of how life goes. That’s kind of how life works. Am I attracted to girls? Idk. I don’t really care though. OCD all simply takes is just not caring anymore.

@sheeby I’ve decided to just live life based on who I want to be with me, not based on porn or erotica or whatever evidence I think of that day. If I’m not actively in love with or sexually engaged with a woman, why should I care right now. And getting to that place is hard for a lot of people, to just accept now

@sheeby And it’s hard to not care. Anxiety and fear rule my life still. I’m working hard to let go. Because most people let go. Most people don’t spend their days pondering what could go wrong. Sure we have a chronic illness, but I don’t claim that over my life. I am not OCD. I just have OCD.

@wellwellwell Yes that’s good.

@sheeby I know in my head that even if I am attracted to women, I only want to date, have sex, and be with men. That’s something that’s been helpful is I tell myself “Even if I am, I choose to only be with men because I control my life.”