Not really an OCD thing but I would love some advice on this (Long). So lately things have been intense in my household surrounding my dad. My relationship with him has been rocky for years. For some brief backstory: he used to drive cross-county as a truck driver a lot so he was rarely home when I was a kid. He eventually started working local and being home more when I was heading into my teen years and that’s when I finally started seeing how he was like. It seemed like for almost everything we butted heads. He’s the type that says he hates when people are easily offended and can’t take a joke, when he is literally the most easily offended person I have ever met. He used to get upset for the dumbest things (not having the right cheese in the fridge for a sandwich, etc). I was resenting him more and more as the years went on. He never stayed in the same job for more than a few months because he was bored or wanted thing else so he proved to be unstable at times which worried my mom. I would become so furious with him that I’d tell my mom she should leave him and many other horrible things. I truly felt like that before - I did NOT like this man. I wished I had someone better as a father many times. At some point, when my OCD started to appear and my anxiety grew worse, I decided to forgive him and start anew. That lifted a whole ton of weight off my conscience and it was instead replaced with love for him. I was so happy to be with him. Thought I would let things slide, won’t hold it against him. Now here we are about a year and a half later and that resentment is starting to build up again. I tried so very hard not to but he has been a main source of us feeling overwhelmed and angry. For one, he is extremely passionate about his political views and won’t stop talking to us about it despite us expressing that we didn’t want to speak on the subject. If it’s anything against him, then you apparently don’t know anything and attacks you on what’s personal to you. In my example, he would go after my faith, which I hate when anyone does that. Another cause lately has been surrounding the pandemic. Since it has started my family and I, besides him, have been taking precautions, such as wearing a mask every time we go out, washing hands, staying home when we can. He has gone out almost every day doing who knows what, eating in at restaurants, visiting and taking my grandma out, and not wearing a mask. He’s extremely back and forth about it. He has told us he has been wearing a mask the entire time, but when we actually go out with him, he never puts it on. Recently he said he was gonna take it seriously (and starts lecturing us about it??) to wear a mask. Then a couple days later he’s out with my cousin and that cousin later confides in me that he not only didn’t wear a mask, but questioned my cousin for wearing one as well, claiming he doesn’t even own one. So he’s consistently lying to us, putting us at risk, while we try to take care of ourselves. There’s so much more, but overall I’m very exhausted, sad, and frustrated with the whole situation. I constantly feel like I’m on the verge of tears. It’s hard for me to sit down and explain this to him because 1.) I’m the type of person who immediately starts crying when the conversation is serious/I get overwhelmed quick and 2.) fear of him getting offended and ruining the environment in the house for the next x amount of days. I really don’t know what to do anymore. I talked to my mom and brother about this frequently and they agree as well, but they know it’s hard to talk to him too. Of course this added negativity and stress in the house has been messing with my OCD. Any advice or tips please? Sorry for how long this post is.