Quick story time: when I was in 5th grade my mom and her friends let’s make her (Susan) told me I needed to grow my boobs bigger because that attracted boys. In fucking fifth gradeee. When I was 10. And Susan and My mom would compare me to Susan’s daughter who already was tall and had big boobs. Lmao. They said I needed to eat more and be more like her. So low key that affected me to this day because now I’m 15 and I don’t wear t shirt or one layer shirt because I don’t have boobs yet and it also paranoid me that people will make fun of me for having no boobs.

Estrid

Date posted: 4y

I'm so sorry they told you this! I get angry when I think about it. Your worth and your beauty has nothing to do with your boobs. Be who you are! Be a brave girl/woman dont listen to that crap. Your body will change a lot through your life and if a man choose you just because of your body...no I dont think that is love.

Inferno

Date posted: 4y

Thank you so much I will remember this yeah no one stood up for me and I was bully as a kid but now I’m old I can fend for myself and sometimes I’m aggressive when people say something rude because it reminds when I was little and I couldn’t stand up for myself so that’s why I get really mad when someone says something rude it just boils me I couldn’t say anything back. I told my mom I hated what she told me about my boobs when I was a child and she didn’t say anything cause she knew she was wrong ain’t no back talk

Estrid

Date posted: 4y

@Peridottttt Take care. With time you can build healthy borders to others and your wounds will heal. I can recommend you to learn about self compassion, an important tool in our life. I like Kimberly Quinlan speaking about this, she has an amazing pod ;The anxiety tool kit and a great Instagram. All the best to you🌻

BigGyro09

Date posted: 4y

I'm sorry you had to hear these things when you were only a little innocent kid. It reminds me of when I discovered pornography when I was 13. We were both fed things that aren't realistic, true, or encouraging. Don't compare yourself to others, as difficult as that sounds. All humans are beautiful! You don't need giant breasts to prove your worth towards finding a lover. Plus, if you ask me fashion trends and standards are freaking stupid. It does nothing but make people feel bad about themselves and try hard to be or look like something they don't have to be.

Inferno

Date posted: 4y

Thank you how do not be insecure wearing t-shirts or 1 layer clothing because I really want to wear them but the trama echos behind my head

BigGyro09

Date posted: 4y

@Peridottttt You don't have to force yourself to do these things if you don't want to. Or if the trauma is too much for you. Do whatever makes you comfortable in your body. And don't copy other people. I'm not too sure on what you would do. It's better if you get advice from other women that can understand where you're coming from.

hanajade

Date posted: 4y

Everyone’s boobs can take time for them to grow in. You will get them soon. No one will make fun of you for having no boobs as yours is taking a while to come through.

Inferno

Date posted: 4y

I feel insecure cause when I go back to school every girl will have theirs big and all I want to do is wear a t-shirt without getting made fun of

Inferno

Date posted: 4y

It’s the trama

hanajade

Date posted: 4y

@Peridottttt I’m sorry to hear that. You could try wearing a crop top underneath it is a bar that you wear if they are starting to grow.

Inferno

Date posted: 4y

@hanajade Or I’ll say at least my pussy don’t stink

🌵

Date posted: 4y

ik the current beauty standard is to have the slimmest waist and the biggest boobs, but small boobs are beautiful too! and very underappreciated. beauty standards change decade by decade so really it’s no use in fretting over fitting those standards.

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