So basically I feel like My boyfriend was calling me fat and stuff. Well yesterday we’re watching the Jersey shore and I looked down at my stomach because were eating like chocolate chip cookies, then I don’t know My boyfriend was just like poking out my stomach and he was laughing but he said he wasn’t laughing at my stomach he was just messing around with me. So then Hes like let me prove to you that I love your body so he’s like let me see your body(not forcing though) so he took my leggings I said no but it wasn’t stern or anything it was kind of like a whetever No, and then I got up and let them take my shirt off. And then after tht I felt uncomfortable and my brian is like “omg is this rape” and stuff like tht. And cried and got upset because he said he didn’t mean to hurt me was trying to prove a point but in my head I don’t know which turned into this like thing

Thank you for commenting! And yes this the first time it has happend. I guess he would’ve just got tired of me complaining that I thought I was fat then maybe he wanted to prove otherwise of how much she loved me. Could’ve probably done it in a better way but, Ik he cares about me. Even dropped a fraternity that he wanted to do because he didn’t want me to be upset.

@Anna:) Yeah he’s definitely not a bad boyfriend, just doesn’t know how to express to you that he thinks you’re beautiful. Maybe share with him some ways that would help you, rather than what he tried with.

@sheeby Yeah no definitely I still have like anxiety because I keep thinking about it. I think in his head he pictured it differently. Because he always told me all the time that I’m not fat and he’s like well that’s why I wanted to prove it to you that way by action because I feel like my words don’t prove anything cuz I will not believe it.

@Anna:) Yeah that’s kind of what I assumed his intention was. Well I’m glad you’re able to recognize it as that now, despite the anxiety. Reminder! Dont engage in any compulsions and just relax. The anxiety may be there for a bit. It’s okay :)

@sheeby Yeah I guess may be other people in the app thought he might be a bad person may be the way I worded it or something Idk? Because I mean many of my friends stuff told me and even my boyfriend said if he wanted to hurt me you could’ve hurt me a long time ago why would he choose now. Although everyone says to get over it it’s gonna be kind of hard because you know how OCD is. I am in ERP and tomorrow my boyfriend or I are going to talk to my therapist and talk about boundaries and things. Also my boyfriend I guess got really upset now everything he does he ask me can I touch you can I do this and that, if he didn’t care he wouldn’t be asking that stuff.

@Anna:) He also mentioned if I thought he was a bad boyfriend to return his present because he says if I thought he was a bad boyfriend he thinks that he doesn’t deserve anything for Christmas .

No I think it definitely is. And no he did not force. He is really hurt that I called him a rapist. Everyone said it’s a misunderstanding and he didn’t mean too hurt me like that.