Wife’s undiagnosed ocd turned into phycosis paranoia. Makes her angry and unbearable. Life is difficult because she’s refusing treatment as of now. Any experience helpful thanks

@Bryan Psychosis isn’t a symptom of ocd. Someone can have ocd AND comorbid disorders that entail psychosis. But the psychosis itself is not part of ocd. Also, there are cases where someone is misdiagnosed as having psychosis when the psychiatrist doesn’t realize the the intrusive thoughts are egodystonic and the patient is performing compulsions (usually mental.) but a corrected diagnosis will note that they have ocd with what we call “poor insight”.

@jasminex123 If you don’t know it’s probably not relevant. Especially if you’re seeking reassurance for your own ocd worries.

Please keep encouraging her to get help. All you can do is make sure the resources are available to her (you could find a local ocd specialist and give her some info about them. You could offer to call for her when she’s ready if she’d prefer that. You could buy some ocd workbooks to have available. You could show her some online ocd courses such as CBT School and tell her you’re happy to pay for and enroll her. You could find a local support group and let her know the hours they meet.) but ultimately it’s up to her to engage in treatment and get better. She is responsible for her recovery and it won’t really work any other way. You are responsible for being supportive and for caring for yourself. You can’t help anyone if you’re not taken care of first. Be sure you’re getting enough sleep, eating well, getting exercise, talking to close friends about your frustrations, staying in contact with close family etc.

I think it’s important is these types of situations to understand that there’s only so much you can do to support someone else’s growth or change. And it’s okay to recognize that a change is necessary for you to want to stick around. If the situation has become one where you can’t see yourself succeeding or happy, you might need to prepare yourself to have a different kind of relationship. Since you have a child, you’ll always be connected. But there may be a healthier way for both of you to live.

People in pain tend to hurt those closest to them unfortunately. I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this. Stay strong 💪🏻

It sounds like you’re taking all of the right steps. The most important thing is to make sure you and your child are safe and not living in an abusive environment. I hope she agrees to the evaluation and it brings answers. But if not, despite whatever guilt you may feel, prioritize the two of you. She may get the help she needs in her own time. But you don’t need to suffer in waiting. I’d highly recommend getting your own therapist to have some professional support through this and to help you process it all. It sounds like you have very few people looking out for you right now. And a therapist would be a great person to have in your corner.