Chai
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AnonymousAnonymous
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Everyday that I live im questioning whether I’m really queer or not and I think it’s mostly because of internalised homophobia You’ve just got to remember that we’re conditioned from the second we pop out of the womb to view hetero relationships as the norm and we have a choice as adults to reevaluate how we feel about it
AnonymousAnonymous
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@jasminex123 I can’t speak for the entire community but I certainly have, I’d feel guilty if I was “claiming” to be queer but wasnt really and I’d feel guilty if I repressed a crucial part of myself- there was no winning
AnonymousAnonymous
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@jasminex123 14ish
aurokoiaurokoi
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I understand what you mean by it setting in after OCD hit. As someone who thought she was bi for a long long time, I think it’s 100% just getting comfortable with the fact that there is no ‘normal’ orientation, and to disengage with the idea that you’re straight before you realise you’re not. One of the things I do is spread awareness about the community in general to a) normalize it and b) help maybe closeted or questioning queer folk know that they’re perfectly normal. It’s also about letting queer folk be queer without demanding evidence, or trying to disprove it. Some people like the same sex. Some people don’t. Some people think they do and then realise they don’t. Some people are curious. And all of that is 100% okay. I hope this helped :)
aurokoiaurokoi
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@jasminex123 Neither haha. The one good thing about OCD is that it helped me realise I was something completely different than the straight-lesbian-bi orientations 🤷🏻♀️
aurokoiaurokoi
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@jasminex123 I think I am aromantic. Im still getting used to it, but I think it’s for me. I’m pretty sure if it wasn’t for ocd and I came to this conclusion without all of that, I’d be able to say 100% but rn I’m sitting at about 90% sure lol.
aurokoiaurokoi
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@jasminex123 I dont mind talking about this at all but I don’t want to accidentally fuel your compulsions 😅 if you’re asking to get reassurance or help you ‘figure it out’, it might not be the best
ChaiChai
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Thank you! OCD impacted everything, so the feelings of shame were kinda hidden until now- I’m struggling with panic attacks due to it, and accepting myself feels like a bit of a challenge. This absolutely helped- thanks so much!
ChaiChai
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@jasminex123 Um, since my sexuality isn’t the norm (best way I can say it without panicking) , I feel uncomfortable at times and get really anxious.
ChaiChai
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@jasminex123 yea, I suppose so. That’s a part of my internalized homophobia. 😅
ChaiChai
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@jasminex123 There’s a lot of slurs and hate crimes against people who feel the same I do. As well as unacceptance with identies. Thinking about that makes me anxious.
ChaiChai
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@jasminex123 This seems like reassurance at this point. Why are you asking?
ChaiChai
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@jasminex123 oh okay, my apologies! What kind of OCD do you have, if I may ask?
ChaiChai
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@jasminex123 Oh, ok :)
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