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I've been there!! I'm actually graduating soon but I was in your shoes. First: BREATHE -New things, places & events might seem scary because it's so new. This is normal & feelings like this is not a bad thing. Try: 1) Pretending nerves are excitement! Pump yourself up, shift to a positive mindset rather than worrying about what could go wrong. 2) Plan If you know what to do, then the unknown won't be as scary it. And if you don't, if there are no virtual orientations or prep sheets, then go online. Look at YouTube and watch other people's experiences – it could give you a sense of relief and if they made it through it, you will too. 3) And if you end up obsessing- then obsess. Once you come down from that stress or compulsion-calm yourself. Take time for self care & know that there are tins of people to guide & help you along the way. Professors, other kids & campus student guides are there with all the answers. You dont have to know them all.
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Thank you for this long reply! I really really appreciate it!! I’m just so nervous I won’t meet people and I’ll get stuck in my head and waste my college experience, basically I can’t stop thinking about the worst case scenario, and how it’s “probably gonna happen” in my mind, so I should worry about it? Very frustrating lol :/
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I started my college last September. It's okay to be nervous and shy, I'm shy too :)
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Thank you for you reply!! and same here :) I’m just so worried I’ll waste it? Or ruin it somehow? Not sure :/
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@anaserafina Tell me, how do you think you'll ruin it?
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@amineb04 I’m worried I won’t make friends or I’ll give up on making friends and just be alone and everyone else will be having fun and I won’t be?
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@anaserafina Awh u seem rly nice I'm sure u will make friends :)
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A normal fear though for a first time though! But you have friends now right? You've taken pictures, eaten lunch with people. College is similar, there is someone for everybody & plenty of events to make friends. If you can't speak up & say hey- give a genuine compliment to someone. They'll take interest in the fact you did & then get to talking after that. :D As long as you doing something, putting your legs out & testing the waters- even just registering for college in the first place means you're taking steps in your life. Giving it meaning & not choosing to do anything. Its a fabulous first step!
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This is so helpful! I will definitely try that, thank you again :)))
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I’ve been here before! My OCD would always spike up when i was facing a major life change and had to adjust. Something that helped me was journaling. I’m not sure how big you are on writing but it truly healed me when I first started college. I also recommend building a routine for yourself! Join clubs and organizations. Enjoy yourself! I’d do anything to experience my college years again
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I will definitely give those a shot as well, thank you so much for your reply I reslly really appreciate it
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@anaserafina Of course, I’m here for you if you’d like to chat at all!
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Any more questions? How are you feeling now?
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