- Username
- cato4
- Date posted
- 5y ago
@Deputydean I’m sorry to hear that, and yes of course every case is different, maybe some people won’t be able to start a relationship because their compulsions won’t even let them get out of the house, or some will have physical symptoms that prevent them from starting a family. In my case, my ocd is severe, but it didn’t stop me. It’s hard, I have rocd and I had to learn how to deal with it and stop myself from starting fights every time my intrusive thoughts started messing up with me. My worst theme/fear right now involves my kids, so it really is hard, but if it’s something you want, you have to constantly fight the ocd monster and don’t let it win.
One of my themes too I can get so upset sometimes because I’d do anything to have a relationship have kids get married and just be like others I just always think I’ll never get there I’ve had ocd since about 14 I’m now 20 so I’ve never been able to have a relationship it’s so sad
Ive had pure ocd since 13 , I’m now 48yrs old , two beautiful daughters and a wife and run two businesses, but I still suffer . I have good and bad days that’s mental Illness for u . I see a therapist and meditate and exercise my ass off all helps.
My point is, u can function with practice and patience live a relatively ‘normal ‘ life. Yes you’ll have bad days and good ones but find activities that will redirect your energy
Read Sally Winston’s ‘ overcoming intrusive thoughts ‘. The book helped me a great deal to understand we are all normal nothing wrong with these thoughts . They are just that , Thoughts passing through your mind !! Nothing else , thoughts are not u
I’ve had ocd since I was around 8 years old, im 30 now, I’ve never been to therapy (I’m going to start soon) I started working when I was 18, I am married and have 3 kids. What I’m trying to say is that you can have a life even with ocd.
It depends, @Tqh. For instance I'm going though a prolonged period of impotence. I'm now in a vicious cycle of worrying about it and it getting worse because of my worrying. On top of that the worrying is HOCD. I've always wanted to get married and have kids, but I can't do that while I'm like this.
It's true that you have to keep fighting, and I do, but sometimes it gets so intense that Im a wreck.
We can all agree that some days are sh*t and some days are good, and some days can be a mix of both ??♀️at least we get some ocd free moments. @jay1 I guess it’s true that ocd targets the things you love the most... are you still going to therapy? Did it work? I try to do some exposures but sometimes it’s scary and i don’t want to go trough it without professional help.
@Tqh I just started the therapist.So it’s too early to say and same as u I tried a little exposure myself around my girls ( cooking/preparation of food in kitchen and using knives around my children etc etc) but it can get scary without proper guidance. I usually start a panic and have to leave the kitchen or get the kids to sit a little away . Writing this down it sounds sooo bloody stupid but at the time , there’s shear panic ruminating in my head . Let me know how your therapy goes, i’d like to keep up communication if that’s cool with u. it’s good to reach out to people suffering the same. Take care Tqh ✌️?
@cato4 I feel exactly the same way. @Tum98 I'm a bit older than you and I've never had a long term relationship. I hope that doesn't happen to you, or anyone really.
Cato. Have you ever noticed when your doing something you love your even just when your focused on something important most of the thoughts you have go away? You can live a normal life I and 28 and have 3 beautiful kids.
I just always get scared that if I do get in a relationship would I cope because I’m constantly dealing with my ocd
@Tqh wow u and I experience exactly same intrusions involving our children and other things obviously.When I started having these fear involving my kids , I looked up a therapist trained in CBT and exposure/r therapy . Our situations are very similar, married with kids, working and trying to enjoy life but living with a mental illness for most of our lives but we never give up. Some days are ¥€#%€£ terrible but we get thru it . Stay strong everyone, peace x
@jay1 sure! Do you use Instagram? I have an alternate anonymous Instagram account, if you want we can talk there
@Tqh Yes that sounds great. I’ve just reactivated my Instagram account and posted a few pics of me and fam just so u know I’m not some weirdo lol ?. Anyways I appreciate it, I think it’ll help me communicate with a fellow suffer and hopefully u. My instagram is jasonbeasley8 look me up . Have a good day ✌️
Not to sound too depressing but does anybody else get scared or worried about the fact you have to deal with OCD for the rest of your life now that you have it.. Is it even possible to live somewhat of a normal life and have your thoughts not bother you as much?
I saw someone on here talking about how they don’t think people with severe ocd can be in a relationship because they’re too much of a burden and it really really freaked me out. I know it’s not reasonable and they were probably just in a bad place but all I want is to grow up and have a husband and kids and it already hurts when my ocd is attacking that and making me feel undeserving but thinking that I’m completely unlovable makes me want to crawl in a hole. I just want to be happy and I’m afraid I’ll never be able to have a good life because of my stupid brain that latches into everything. I’ve already wasted so much time freaking out over random stupid stuff I just want to be normal and happy. I’m not sure if asking for help and advice around this is reassurance because it’s not really a part of my ocd it feels more like general anxiety. But I would like to hear other people’s experiences with dating or just generally living with ocd.
How am I suppose to get better when OCD makes me doubt if I want to get better 😭. It feels like I just want to live in my OCD thoughts. It’s so scary!
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