Only girls reply please 😁 just feel better that way So basically I’m feeling quite insecure for still being a virgin at 17 and I keep telling myself to not be so upset by what society expects of me but I literally can’t help it. Apart from a dumb relationship when I was 14, and a few pecks with boys when playing spin the bottle these last few years, I’m never been intimate with a guy. And it just makes me feel really shit about myself. I KNOW it shouldn’t matter at all but I can’t shake it off. And beyond this, I’m also worried I’ll use a guy one day just to gain experience and that’s a horrible thing to do. I always sorta told myself that before university, I’d go abroad with friends and just go wild, but if it’s all because I’m insecure, then that’s not fair on any of the guys I’d be with. At all. So what am I meant to do? At this point, I just wanna lose it and move forwards, or become more confident!! Losing it would make me feel good (but guilty because I fear I’d be using the person) yet confidence is such a long journey.

I’m 20 had sex first time when I was 18 because I felt insecure as well. Honestly I wish I was a virgin now.

Just do what you want to do . Honestly it’s a good thing that your listening to your values and want to focus on career . I’m the same way . I tried to be wild , and watch porn and I’m the same age as you . Worst mistake of my life . It’s good thst you’re like this

It’s okay. Do whatever feels comfortable and right to you. You can take any path you want as long as no one gets hurt in the process. I actually relate a lot. I’m 18 almost 19 and I’ve done nothing. It’s definitely embarrassing being in college with no experience. But everyone moves at their own pace and takes their own path and it’s okay. Nothing to be ashamed of. You just need to find yours.

Ik im not a girl but that’s a good thing if that’s your morals cause when you meet that one guy it’s gonna feel 100x more romantic for both of you. I wish I was still a virgin.

I'm the same age as you and I feel the same way. However at 17 you're still very young, there's a whole life ahead of you. Society expects us to do/experience specific things at specific ages, but at the end of the day there's no right time or wrong time. It's all a matter of moments. Some people get in serious relationship at 13 and some others at 40, and cool things is that it doesn't matter. You do you, keep focusing on yourself. Things will get into place :)

I'm older I'm in my 30s. I can tell you that it's really perfectly fine that you haven't had sex at 17! To be honest, it's good and it's great to wait until you find someone who really cares for and respects you. Take care of yourself and your body. Looking back on my younger years (and I didn't have sex until 18, so glad I waited until then) one thing I wish is that I didn't have relations with so many men!!! Honestly, young men don't understand how to treat women well, and by the time I'm old enough to realize now it's too late. I don't judge myself for being with guys when I was younger, but I sure wish I could go back in time and slap myself into sense and say "have more self respect!" Because you are valuable and deserve to be treated well. All women do.