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Iām 20 had sex first time when I was 18 because I felt insecure as well. Honestly I wish I was a virgin now.
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Iām sorry :( Why do you still wish you were one?
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@garden Because I always felt pressured into it I was never comfortable and I let people use and abuse me
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@Molly Thatās awful Iām really sorry. You deserved (and still deserve) better
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Just do what you want to do . Honestly itās a good thing that your listening to your values and want to focus on career . Iām the same way . I tried to be wild , and watch porn and Iām the same age as you . Worst mistake of my life . Itās good thst youāre like this
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Itās okay. Do whatever feels comfortable and right to you. You can take any path you want as long as no one gets hurt in the process. I actually relate a lot. Iām 18 almost 19 and Iāve done nothing. Itās definitely embarrassing being in college with no experience. But everyone moves at their own pace and takes their own path and itās okay. Nothing to be ashamed of. You just need to find yours.
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Thank you so much
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Ik im not a girl but thatās a good thing if thatās your morals cause when you meet that one guy itās gonna feel 100x more romantic for both of you. I wish I was still a virgin.
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I'm the same age as you and I feel the same way. However at 17 you're still very young, there's a whole life ahead of you. Society expects us to do/experience specific things at specific ages, but at the end of the day there's no right time or wrong time. It's all a matter of moments. Some people get in serious relationship at 13 and some others at 40, and cool things is that it doesn't matter. You do you, keep focusing on yourself. Things will get into place :)
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Youāre so right
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I'm older I'm in my 30s. I can tell you that it's really perfectly fine that you haven't had sex at 17! To be honest, it's good and it's great to wait until you find someone who really cares for and respects you. Take care of yourself and your body. Looking back on my younger years (and I didn't have sex until 18, so glad I waited until then) one thing I wish is that I didn't have relations with so many men!!! Honestly, young men don't understand how to treat women well, and by the time I'm old enough to realize now it's too late. I don't judge myself for being with guys when I was younger, but I sure wish I could go back in time and slap myself into sense and say "have more self respect!" Because you are valuable and deserve to be treated well. All women do.
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Thanks so muchš
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@garden You're welcome! Society (that is ruled mostly by men) puts this pressure on young girls to be sexual and have sex, because that is what guys want! You don't have to and you 100 percent don't have to feel bad about that :). But I get it, peer pressure when you are younger can be difficult to deal with, so stay strong and know you're worthy.
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Thatās interesting. Iāve had better respect shown by younger men my age than with older men. But to be fair, my older men are your younger men. Our generation is a bit more aware so they do better. Older men kinda scare me lol.
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@stop. Yep you are right, closer in age are generally more on the level. Older men who try to get with younger women I would avoid. As i get older and are in the same situation I can see that it's not really appropriate for older people to try to be in relationships with people in their teens/early 20s. It's a power imbalance.
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@Anonymous I wasnāt really talking about dating. I havenāt dated at all. I was more talking about general respect.
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