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- maybethistime
- Date posted
- 3y ago
As a member of that community and the OCD community, I understand. I am not at all offended because it is the OCD, not you as a person. Try not to worry about it. I really would let it go! I'm in therapy now for OCD and learning to accept the uncertainty, it takes away the fear!!
It’s okay! It was how you acted with your OCD atm and you’ve recognized it and stopped. Those first heavy stages of having HOCD can make us say things that may come off as offensive towards the LGBTQ community when that is not our intention. Sometimes we need to be more aware of what we are doing when we are constantly asking people for reassurance and aware of how we word ourselves. We also have to consider that a lot of them won’t understand that you have OCD. So what you are asking may come off as weird or something backhanded when it’s just your anxiety and OCD. But they don’t know that. They just see what you are asking them and not your motivations behind them. It’s a good combo of miscommunication on both sides. Your anxiety and need for reassurance probably made you word your questions in ways that offended people though you did not intend to and their lack of understanding about OCD keeps them from understanding why you did what you did. I’m glad you stopped seeking reassurance from them. It’s a good step in the right direction to get better, but don’t beat yourself up about it. You live and you learn.
It’s fine we all seek reassurance . I spammed r/legaladvice when I was scared of getting into legal trouble for random shit
I feel you. I think ocd makes us act out in selfish ways because we’re so worried. It’s not evil of you or us. HOCD is especially hard because at time it can seem really demonising to the LGBTQ+ community. I for one imagine I’ve hurt people too. We just have to consciously make sure our words don’t hurt already marginalised groups. We gotta learn from it, to avoid the potential of any more hurt! Don’t beat yourself up over it. Your ocd hijacked your brain and made you have to do this. And your guilt shows where your heart is. We just all have to be a little more aware at times 💛
I feel SO GUILTY for this, but I suffer from OCD myself and I always feel morally obligated to help other OCD sufferers as much as I can so they dont feel alone or isolated but today somebody from a fb support group I am in contacted me with their POCD thoughts and kept asking me for reassurance, I told them it was OCD and nothing else. I told them not to engage in reassurance seeking behaviours etc. But my OCD thoughts became directed at the OCD sufferer and now I cant stop ruminating "what if that person is a bad person, how could I know?" "What if every ocd sufferer you've spoken too could potentially be a bad person?", I know the person contacting me is in therapy for their OCD and clearly struggling with a mental illness. I feel so guilty for having those thoughts, I felt anxious when she described her thoughts to me and I feel bad for having my intrusive thoughts that are directed towards her. Maybe I shouldn't help anyone since I am suffering from OCD myself. :(
I believe I have moral OCD and I reassurance seek about things because my brain genuinely cannot recognise if I should be upset/worried/ashamed about something or not. My brain just gets locked on one thought and cant get any real perspective. I read a post today on a OCD support group on fb where someone said "bad people often want reassurance to make them feel better about who they are/what they have done and get this reassurance online from people who dont know the full story about them". And it really triggered me because it made me think, am I not a good person? Is this really OCD? what if it's not and I am doing exactly what that person said? And that was so scary to me. I dont think I'm a bad person, I'll admit to making mistakes in the past like every other human on the planet but my intentions were never bad ones. And then I feel scared for even worrying about what that person said bc why would I worry after reading that? I feel like my brain just cant distinguish from reality and the reality that its created and its terrifying.
One thing that I’ve noticed about my OCD is that it makes me feel very regretful and embarrassed at the end of every day. I reflect on every interaction and every conversation and any thought that I’ve had throughout the day. As a result, I feel more and more ashamed of the way that I act, even though it is probably normal for some of my age to act and see the things that I say. Earlier today I flirted with a guy and then as soon as it ended I had so much religious and moral guilt about it. Does anyone have any advice on how to not feel so ashamed after doing the typical activities that people in their 20s do? I feel like these thoughts are making me want to isolate from everyone else so that I’m not put in the position to do and say these things. I feel comfortable with myself when I don’t talk to anybody but I’m noticing that that can’t be normal . I don’t want to lose friendships and potential relationships out of fear that I’m going to say something wrong. I don’t know what to do.
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