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Congratulations! 🎉 🎈
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Thank you!!
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- OCD Conqueror
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Congratulations!! That’s awesome to hear! :)
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Thank you :) !
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CONGRATULATIONS!!! 💖 Do you have any tips for me? I’ve been applying ERP for months now but I ruminate a ton, and have a million justifications for why doing my compulsions is “the right thing to do”.
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Thank you so much! It’s good that you’ve been applying ERP but the trick to recovery is to do it for everything - especially ruminating. The best thing for ruminating it to catch yourself when you do it and say “I am doing a compulsion, I’m going to stop now” and revert your attention elsewhere. It’s tricky at first but eventually it will become so easy it’s automatic. And most importantly don’t justify!!!! There is no justification, that’s what your ocd is telling you, it’s not the truth. Even if you think of a justification ignore it and don’t ruminate anyway. It helps short term but in the long term that is what will be holding you back. You’ve got this!
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@HS369 Thank you SO much! I really appreciate your help! Congrats again on your recovery, and thank you!!
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That’s awesome!! I have a question about erp. How do you “sit with the anxiety” without having mental compulsions? I would think having anxiety WOULD be a compulsion. Is it not?
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The anxiety itself is not a compulsion but things like ruminating, “problem solving”, racing thoughts are. They are very tricky to stop doing at first because It almost happens automatically. The best thing I did was stop myself when I noticed myself doing it and say to myself “this is a compulsion, I’m going to stop” and then revert my attention elsewhere . The more you do it the easier it gets to stop quickly before it eventually becomes an automatic response.
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@jasminex123 Do something you enjoy :). I used to play a game on my phone or chat with a friend on the phone. If you talk to someone though make sure it isn’t for reassurance.
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Yes please I’m barely staring and everything triggers me.
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Of course! I promise it does get better. If you have any questions let me know.
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So happy for you. And literally any advice would be helpful. 🤍
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Thank you! My biggest thing would be perseverance and consistency with your ERP. It starts getting easier and easier to resist compulsions and it’s the best feeling!
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I’ve struggled with even starting erp and continuing
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ERP is very difficult especially at first, my therapist even told me it might get worse before it gets better. Persevere I promise it’ll get easier.
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I have real event and the chronic guilt is killing me. I did so many things to prove I’m not a bae person.
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You don’t need to prove anytbing to your ocd anymore ❤️ simply ignore the nasty voice telling you to feel guilty, stop doing what it tells you to do. It feels weird at first because this ocd makes us feel like we’re bad people but you deserve relief and recovery. Guilt was my biggest feeling with ocd. Sending lots of support because this theme was the worst for me I know how horrible it is. Here’s a good link, this really helped me. https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.turningpointpsychology.ca/blog/real-event-ocd%3fformat=amp
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ERP is so hard! I keep wanting to confess. I feel like I don’t deserve anything.
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It will be hard at first. The best thing to do is be compassionate and kind to yourself, tell yourself that you do deserve good things even if you don’t believe it at first. And keep going with your ERP
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It’s just that I had it since August. I didn’t know it was OCD. I made a racist remark along time ago at work because I was trying to side with my boss and for some reason I can’t let it go. This was along time ago. And it hurts me deeply because I’m a POC and my friends are biracial and I haven’t hung out with them because I get slurs in my head and it’s torture. and I changed myself completely and I have so much guilt.
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This seems to be really common in the real event theme. I’m not going to give you any reassurance but I would recommend you read the website I linked it’s very helpful. I would also suggest you don’t avoid hanging out with your friends for that reason because avoidance is a compulsion! Luckily real event ocd is treated the same as every other theme with ERP. If you follow it you’ll be able to move on guilt free x
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I want to confess to them.
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It’s so hard I can’t breathe sometimes!
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I know it’s hard . Are you seeing a therapist at the moment?
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Yes 😭
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This is good, I’d express this clearly if you haven’t already. Is she a CBT therapist?
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I can’t stop or sleep.
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She’s so though NOCD. She does ERP
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I’m sure you’re in good hands then ❤️ make sure you are following the ERP perfectly though you can’t miss certain things out. Especially avoidance, confessing and ruminating.
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When you become a “conqueror” does it mean you’ve completed ERP or you’ve just gotten to a good place with it? If so, how long did it take to finish therapy and how did you finally make progress? I’m having a hard time sticking with it right now as it feels unproductive. I’ve been in ERP for about 2 months and I can’t wait to be done.
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Hey everyone it’s been a while since I posted on here. Honestly, I try to stay off of this app unless I really need advice because I find it triggering at times. But right now I’m feeling pretty down and just would like some hopeful and helpful advice. Has anyone ever felt like they’re just not capable of getting out of this? Has anyone ever felt like ERP therapy isn’t working or that they just can’t get it’s a click? . I’ve been in ERP therapy for over a year just about a year and a half actually and I literally feel so stagnant and stuck still. I show up every week I do my exposures, but my body is in such a chronic fight or fight all the time that it feels almost impossible to apply the tools. I’m super sensitive to begin with and I feel things very deeply and because of that it feels like I’m not gonna be able to ever change. It feels like no matter what I do or experience I’m just gonna always feel it so deeply and it’s gonna just rattle me all of the time. I’m honestly so frustrated. I’m tired and I’m overwhelmed. I so badly wanna change these patterns that I have and grow and be out of this OCD spiral, but everything just feels impossible. I’m just wondering if I’m alone here?? Has anyone ever felt this way? Has ERP taken a long time for anyone else or am I the only one that just can’t get my brain to click with it? Any encouraging and helpful words would be greatly appreciated thank you 🙏
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3 years ago I got a job that was fully remote. Pay was great, but it took a few months for my life to change. Without getting into too many details I thought I was a full blown schizophrenic that cried in the fetal position every night. As a 27 year old young man who thought I was tough as nails, this crippled me. Learned more about OCD and did some therapy sessions on here. Sessions were great and I highly recommend. However, the exposure and response treatment they recommend is really all you need. It all boils down to facing your fears. No amount of supplements (I spent thousands on them) will get the job done. I said fuck this and just started doing everything I dreaded. Even sat in my own head and let the intrusive thoughts play out on purpose. Harm ocd and psychosis ocd was my main issue. Still is, but whenever I get any intrusive thoughts, I purposely think of something worse and say “top that” (it sucks I know, but it has helped me). I got a new job to where I’m fully back onsite and around people daily. I make it a non negotiable to move everyday even if it’s skipping lunch to take a walk. ALSO… and this is huge. I stopped drinking and smoking and put a huge focus on exercise and nutrition. (Still casual drinks with friends every other weekend, but only light beer. No shots no hard liquor. The socializing is good for me) Dr. Paul saldino and Dr. Chris Palmer are my go to for getting on track. Focus on protein and healthy fats and limit the carbs / processed oils. It’s simple everyone. Face your fears, move around as much as possible, and fuel up and real food. (Cars need gas, not soda). OCD is something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. It’s way worse than anyone unaware can imagine. BUT….. recovering is the best feeling possible.
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