⚠️please read! so i just recently got a boyfriend, i’m 15. it’s only been 3 weeks but i’ve fallen for this bit more than i ever thought could happen. i want to talk about him all the time, be with him all the time, and when i am with him, i feel the need to constantly be in his arms. i seriously think i love him. he can drive, and he went up north with his buddies to go snowmobiling. i panicked. i thought something was gonna happen, because i worry about him slot. i was crying and couldn’t sleep because i was so worried. now everytime i’m away from him, i feel like i need to see him. i sleep with his sweatshirts. am i too clingy? or do i have separation anxiety? i’ve struggled with anxiety ocd and depression for as long as i can remember, but i’ve been taking meds which help. but i still feel this anxiety being away from him. i don’t want to seem too attached. also it’s nit like i just met him we’ve been friends for a few years and just started to actually liek each other this way, because he had a gf who was my best friend, he broke both our hearts, and then we started becoming friends again and i’m need to dating.

Sounds unhealthy . How old is he ?

16

oh also at the end i meant SHE broke both our hearts. i was close friends with 3 girls, they both became toxic. the one girl; let’s call her sammy, she had a bf, who i had to stop being friends with for her. once she dumped him, after she dumped me, me and him became friends again. then we starting talking, and dating and so on

Honestly in today’s society, it’s unrealistic to expect a relationship at that age to last. People are marrying on average age 27-29 nowadays. You have way too much life left to waste it in this distress. You should build yourself up and meet the right man when you’re more mature and understand life and yourself better. My 2 cents.

Hey, I wouldn’t panic! There’s a comment that says that it seems unhealthy, I wouldn’t say that it’s necessary unhealthy - I think it’s just very intense for you. I’m not qualified to analyse this, but it seems like the anxiety and depression etc is possibly causing you to latch onto him for comfort. Us that suffer with anxiety can form attachments to things or people because they give us something else to be devoted to other than draining obsessions. I’m 16, and I think being a teenager is hard enough, but having prevalent mental health issues only makes it harder. Please don’t punish yourself for feeling like this, you’re not doing anything wrong. I think it’s a case of accepting the uncertainty that you don’t have any control over what does or doesn’t happen to other people. All you can really do is tell them to be careful and that you care for them. Accept what you cannot change!