To my fellow bisexual ladies (female presenting or AFAB) who have never been with women before but are in relationships with men... do y’all ever get the feeling of obligation or the need to at least see what it’s like to be with a woman?? I love my bf with all my heart and he completely supports my preferences. I know that I might not want to be with a woman romantically, but the sex just looks amazing. But I feel guilty. Idk. Ik these are just thoughts and that I love having sex with my boyfriend, but it’s just the weird fear of NEEDING to be with a woman just once. Am I the only one here?

babbie

Date posted: 4y ago

Yes, I get this! I’ve been in love with/attracted to a gal but never gotten physical, and because the idea of oral sex squicks me out, I feel like maybe I don’t count as bi? And I’m married to a guy and am not out to a lot of people so I pass as straight which also makes me feel...invalid or something.

babbie

Date posted: 4y ago

Sorry, rereading this I think maybe I misunderstood your question! For me it’s about feeling like I don’t count but for you it sounds like it’s about wanting to fulfill that attraction? (Which I also get but struggle with less personally!)

bubbless

Date posted: 4y ago

@babbie Yes! I’m afraid that I’m going to continue to obsess about what it could be like until I actually do it, but I don’t wanna destroy my relationship since it’s most likely ocd.

bubbless

Date posted: 4y ago

@bubbless Because as I said before, I’m not romantically attracted to them I don’t think

doloresguppies

Date posted: 4y ago

hey i might be wrong, but did you previously identify as straight and struggle with OCD about liking women?

bubbless

Date posted: 4y ago

I always knew that I found women attractive, but I did identify as bi until last year

bubbless

Date posted: 4y ago

@bubbless I don’t think ocd has any relation to it

doloresguppies

Date posted: 4y ago

@bubbless so you never had HOCD obsessing that you were into women in any capacity ?

bubbless

Date posted: 4y ago

@doloresguppies Before ocd I came to terms with my sexuality, but when I get doubts about my relationship, that’s when my hocd kicks in

doloresguppies

Date posted: 4y ago

@bubbless what was coming to terms with your sexuality like? did it ever feel like ocd?

holley

Date posted: 4y ago

i don’t think i’m bi but yes. i have sexual fantasies about the idea of having sex with a girl and it makes me cry after and i don’t want to have sex with a girl now and would like to be with my boyfriend for the rest of my life idk if this is my ocd or my actual desire to go and experiment but i don’t want to right now and if i wanted to in the future i know that i can’t have my boyfriend and do that and being without him would destroy me.

LiaExe28

Date posted: 5w ago

I’m very late to this but I feel this and it’s this really tight anxiety of oh god what if I’m a lesbian and I don’t know cuz I’ve only been sexual with one guy. But I love said one guy a lot. I’m worried it’s not enough or smthn but I’ve never actually wanted to be sexual with a woman but yes I have this fear that I need to be with a woman or I’ll regret being with my bf entirely. I don’t feel any particular way about wlw sex, same with straight sex tho if I don’t know the person. But with my bf it’s all I want. I’m worried I don’t love him with all my heart tho. How are you doing now tho? Just out of curiosity

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