Anonymous
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adaptocdadaptocd
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This is what is defined as Real Event OCD. It’s just another theme of OCD and is to be treated like any other theme. It can be trickier when it’s targeting real events, but it’s important to remember that you aren’t viewing the events through a rational lens, but through a warped version that OCD has convinced you of.
CareeCaree
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YES. Literally everything about my past. I make a lot of mistakes I regret now (my boyfriend hates my past and I have ROCD so that’s a fun combination). My OCD has become so fixated on my past that I have began developing false memories.
ImagineSisyphusHappyImagineSisyp...
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He hates your past?
AnonymousAnonymous
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I have the same challenges
CareeCaree
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@PRYM Yeah. Things he doesn’t like to hear his girlfriend once did
ImagineSisyphusHappyImagineSisyp...
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@Caree I feel like that would be hurtful. I mean its nice that he wants to be with you regardless of that past but idk that would still hurt my feelings.
CareeCaree
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@PRYM It’s hard but I understand why it bothers him
AnonymousAnonymous
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could i talk to you about mine?
ImagineSisyphusHappyImagineSisyp...
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@Caree Yeah I get that. At least you two work it out even though its not perfect. That's all you can really ask for :)
CareeCaree
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@PRYM Thank you yeah. We are able to communicate me and he does not hold it against me. He loves me very much.
ImagineSisyphusHappyImagineSisyp...
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@Caree Thats awesome!
CareeCaree
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@PRYM Thank you :)
CareeCaree
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@PRYM But don’t get me wrong, we communicate but we both struggle with my OCD and it causes problems
ImagineSisyphusHappyImagineSisyp...
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@Caree Well no relationship is perfect. What matters is you two can get through problems that arise.
CareeCaree
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@PRYM Yes! Thank you
CareeCaree
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@elise This is exactly what I deal with. I feel like I have to confess everything to make things better but it actually makes things worse. So I’m really trying to less but it’s really hard, I’m currently struggling with these thoughts but I’m trying so hard. It’s interesting to think there’s other people out there that experience things so similar to me. Makes me feel like I’m not crazy or alone!
CareeCaree
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@elise Exactly! I struggle with this almost everyday and it sucks because It makes me feel like a bad person and I can never be happy. For the smallest things too I feel like I have to confess such specific details that he wouldn’t even care to know but I fight myself on what details need to be told and what is just pointless.
AnonymousAnonymous
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100%. Constant story of shame and doubt
AnonymousAnonymous
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Story for story? of what you think about it? Telling people mine makes me feel alotttt better Lol
adaptocdadaptocd
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@Dan Be careful! Confessing is a huge compulsion for Real Event OCD. It’s a form of reassurance seeking that I’ve dealt with extensively.
AnonymousAnonymous
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@plathocd But I confess to my therapist so he can help me
adaptocdadaptocd
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@Dan There is a difference between explaining what your Real Event is to your therapist and confessing it as a compulsion. When you’re explaining it to your therapist, they will work with you in the context of having OCD- not to provide you with reassurance about how bad or good the event was. When we confess our Real Event to people, we often do so because we hope that people will provide us with something or a similar experience that will alleviate us of the anxiety that the Real Event causes. This is a trick of OCD though. Any compulsion you give in to will not satisfy the relief you’re looking for, it just fuels the cycle. Trust me, I’ve been dealing with it for a long, long time.
PureOemuPureOemu
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All the time! Here’s a story. One time I told someone a story I was ashamed of, but I shouldn’t have told him, because I didn’t know him well. Now I think about the story I was ashamed of, and I also think of the fact that this random guy knows the story of the thing I was ashamed of. This is more than 20 years later, too. Save yourself some heartache, and save the stories for your therapist, or if you are unable to see a therapist, only tell one person you are sure you can trust.
AnonymousAnonymous
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well.. can I trust you?
PureOemuPureOemu
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Haha! Very clever of you! But I’m not sharing a story, and I don’t want you to share a story with me. I’m not a therapist, and I don’t want to enable any reassurance-seeking behaviors. The point of my response was that sharing a story with someone who is not a therapist just made me feel worse. If I had known then what I know now about reassurance-seeking, I never would have done it.
AnonymousAnonymous
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you just made me sad
CcCc
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Yes yes and yes!
ImagineSisyphusHappyImagineSisyp...
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Yep! Its more miserable for me than the ones that are purely not reality based.
AnonymousAnonymous
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hopefully that girl doesnt find me :) Story for story?
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