I have literally never felt worse than I feel now. I can’t stop randomly telling my boyfriend of 4 years every little unnecessary and upsetting detail of every sexual thing I did with people in the short month we weren’t together over 3 years ago. This is after so far having one of the worst days as far as my ROCD in a long time, I’ve been confessing stuff all day but now it’s getting ridiculous and really hurtful. He’s considering leaving me because of the things I’m saying. I completely understand because after saying these things such as explicit details of these sexual encounters or my thoughts and feelings about them out of extreme guilt, I realize I’m sharing things that could ruin our relationship. But I can’t help it and now I’m miserable because I STILL feel like I have to keep going despite the fact he’s already almost gone. Help me

I know your OCD is telling you otherwise, but it’s okay to put the past behind you and move forward as the person you are now.

I dont think she has to admit any more. Sounds like she already told everything and more, and Im not even sure that was even necessary. From the sound of it, it sounds like its not about an actual fault and then remorse but rather just exaggerated OCD crap thoughts about nothing. Nicolemw, I hope you managed to stop yourself somehow and I hope youre feeling better :)

I do not believe that anything you did influenced by OCD was based on who you really are.

That was confusing. I don’t believe anything you did out of OCD reflects who you really are.

He needs to leave the room when you start to confess to him. Ask him to leave the room or even leave wherever you are until you can get it under control

Does he know about your OCD? tell him to stop you if you start confessing again. dont trust whatever your OCD is telling you

also maybe try explaing your rocd to him and how this is one of the things that comes along with it?

How are you doing nicolemw?

something I used to do was either text a friend or family member about it, or journal, or just go in the shower and once u come out you’ll probably be over the urge, or go for a walk or something!

just anything that’ll take your mind off of it

@nicolemw I used to do the same thing. Remember that this is something that you do not have to talk in grave detail about. Also, remember that it hurts him to hear unnecessary details. Whenever I feel like I’m going to say something and have the urge to confess, I try to think of my spouse. And how he would feel. Try to put yourself in his shoes. Then come on here and talk to us instead of him!

He already knew I did stuff with all these people but I can’t stop sharing little DETAILS it’s killing me

How are you feeling now?

It sounds like your dealing with shame... It's a Rly difficult emotion to deal with.. the best thing you can do is admit what to youv'e done, especially if it's troubling you. If not your boyfriend someone else.. it sounds like you need someone to vent your feelings. Whatever your going through someone else has been through that same exact situation or near exact.

I did this to my boyfriend about my hocd once and he got super hurt and it made our relationship weird for a while, so I totally understand your situation.. u just have to practice either keeping it to yourself or maybe try telling your confessions to someone else who it wouldn’t hurt until you don’t feel the temptation as strongly. I’m sorry this is happening, you’ll get through it!

@carrot your comments are inappropriate and unfounded. She’s not saying she cheated on him. She’s saying that she feels obligated to relive details of something that her boyfriend already knows about and does not need to hear about anymore. You should remove or recant your statements. They are irrelevant and unnecessary.

They are only ''inappropriate'' because you know it to be true... Thanks for the compliment btw!..

Just because I have a different opinion on the matter doesn't mean you have to roast me for it.. that's just inappropriate and shows a lack of maturity and emotional Intelligence in understanding that people have a different view and perspective to you... it's almost insensitive I'd say.

I appreciate you checking up on me! This morning I woke up feeling anxious but it was a little easier to control... however I did lose control about 30 mins ago and confess something else that was an unnecessary detail about what I did in that month we were broken up, as well as continually confessing that I’m having intrusive thoughts about not being satisfied enough by him. but it’s getting so ridiculous now we’re back at the same point where I’m afraid the thoughts and confessions will never stop and he’s considering just leaving. I’m afraid I’m going to ruin my relationship forever

Or not even not being satisfied enough but intrusive thoughts about the other guy I did it with the one month we weren’t together and like I’ve already told him every single detail of the thoughts so I’ll just be like “it’s happening again” at this point

What’s something I can do to subside the anxiety whenever a specific memory pops up and I feel the urge to immediately tell him all about it?