Hi, this is not specifically about OCD, but about anger (buti think anxiety contributed to or partly fuelled the anger if you get what i mean. I am hoping some of u guys out there with good temper can help me out. I am someone who can get triggered by inconsiderate acts by others or being a victim of unfair / unkind treatment (I don't mean on regular basis like abuse). I'm sure we all know there are circumstances whereby it wouldn't be wise or appropriate to speak up. Some people would be able to understand & accept the experience for what it is; feel annoyed, then shrug it off and move on. But i belong to those who would fume inside.. and then sometimes i would feel like raising a complaint which somehow makes me feel like an ugly person (like why can't i be more big-hearted).. and i dislike myself when I'm angry / annoyed.. and what's worse is sometimes i can feel that this caused my head to hurt. I feel moody and unwell.. I know anger is normal but how exactly to deal with it? I'm really envious of people who are not 'sensitive' and can let go easily.. To the sweet souls out there, pls share tips with me! I wish to become a better person.. more peaceful / less easily triggered.. Thank you in advance!

I relate to this. For me, when i’m feeling calmer i’m less reactive

@Melissa G. Yes, I've thought over the situations that seem to be somehow a pattern.. like getting angry (my hubby said im someone who feels v strongly abt right & wrong), chooses to express it very explicitly (like frowning or being curt to express my displeasure), then if the other party starts reasoning from their perspective.. then my mind started freezing.. and sometimes I would go into self blame.. like why couldn't i be more understanding.. im really bad in dealing with conflicts. Sometimes it's a strong sense of how things should be.. sometimes it's probably nervous energy and anxiety (for stressful situations, im very particular abt punctuality and that's when i could be really angry. When not stressed i would be very patient about it even if the other party is an hour or so late).. Yep.. probably i should work harder on meditation.. and reframe a situation to make it less stressful for me.. and i won't be so easily irked by hiccups/mistakes/tardiness..

Im someone very introverted and sensitive. So i keep a small social circle too.. as i feel hurt easily and cannot withstand conflicts well. Im ok with a small trusted circle made up of my family & a few close friends. Then minimise contact with the rest so it doesn't stress me up. For me, i just wanna be more calm and even tempered.. don't be too obstinate about correct or appropriate i guess.. and let everyone breathes easier ( i feel bad when i express my anger.. i feel like im not a nice person.. and maybe since young im being told i have a quick temper despite a good heart and it makes people don't feel so good at times.) Also i think being less stressed, less sensitive & less temperamental.. people would enjoy my company more.. and my relationships would be more joyful. I think that brings more love. OCD (anxiety) makes us jittery & hinders love, and the lack of love can make us uncomfortable and anxious (OCD worsens). Feels like a vicious cycle. Which is why i posted to get advice ^^ Thank you guys for the responses. I was having a really tough time yesterday; this made me feel not so alone. @R1b1 hope you can find the love you need soon.. meanwhile i think this app is good for us whereby people care and we can support each other.. :)