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- M1133
- Date posted
- 3y ago
- Username
- babbiebabbie
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Yeah. I’ve done this even with crushes where I didn’t know if the other person was even interested. It helped me to recognize that my brain was probably going to find something to obsess about and some reason to feel bad, and it just happened to land on the person I was interested in because they were handy, you know? We’re good at finding explanations, but sometimes the real explanation is just that our neurotransmitters are messy, and it’s no one’s fault.
- Username
- AnonymouslyAnonymously
- Date posted
- 3y ago
ill usually be the one who is in the talking phase and then when the person wants to meet up in person and it feels more real then i freak out and spiral and come up with a million reasons not to and start to feel guilty like what if i hurt their feelings what if by not going i missed on meeting with someone im meant to meet what if something bad happens what if there is no chemistry what if they get too attached and i feel nothing and have to be the one who rejects them or they reject me which is even worse? and then when i go through that list and my anxiety is so bad that i cant sleep i just decide its better i stop talking because i feel all this extreme anxiety and avoidance helps me calm down so yeah i turn talking phase into a big deal but usually im the one to become distant as a response to my fears
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- AJogolAJogol
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Omg i have never heard someone that also feels like this! I am in that place right now that I want to see if him and I could be something but at the same time I am scared of losing feelings and reject him. I am looking forward to the day where I get rejected tbh
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- AJogolAJogol
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@AJogol Because than I know that I can feel something for someone again..
- Username
- AnonymouslyAnonymously
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@AJogol wow its nice to know someone can relate but i also know how sucky it feels because its basically self sabotage which can end up being lonely i hope we both break these patterns one day 🙏
- Username
- AJogolAJogol
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@Anonymously Nice to hear that. I hope the best for you too, we are going to get through this. And yes it’s actually self sabotage and I think I need to work on my self to feel more confident and safe❤️
- Username
- M1133M1133
- Date posted
- 3y ago
He had his ex move back in than when I saw her jewelry in a mirror picture he sent I asked who’s it was and he called me crazy ! Love my life ! (been in 4 relationships and 3/4 of them cheated on me) this is typical for me I don’t trust anyone
- Username
- AnonymouslyAnonymously
- Date posted
- 3y ago
im sorry that sucks it makes sense why you have trust issues i know its hard not to bring our past into new relationships but hopefully we can get out of self destructive patterns sending good vibes your way i hope it all works out 🙏
- Username
- M1133M1133
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@Anonymously Thank you I appreciate it, same to you💖
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