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Yeah. I’ve done this even with crushes where I didn’t know if the other person was even interested. It helped me to recognize that my brain was probably going to find something to obsess about and some reason to feel bad, and it just happened to land on the person I was interested in because they were handy, you know? We’re good at finding explanations, but sometimes the real explanation is just that our neurotransmitters are messy, and it’s no one’s fault.
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ill usually be the one who is in the talking phase and then when the person wants to meet up in person and it feels more real then i freak out and spiral and come up with a million reasons not to and start to feel guilty like what if i hurt their feelings what if by not going i missed on meeting with someone im meant to meet what if something bad happens what if there is no chemistry what if they get too attached and i feel nothing and have to be the one who rejects them or they reject me which is even worse? and then when i go through that list and my anxiety is so bad that i cant sleep i just decide its better i stop talking because i feel all this extreme anxiety and avoidance helps me calm down so yeah i turn talking phase into a big deal but usually im the one to become distant as a response to my fears
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Omg i have never heard someone that also feels like this! I am in that place right now that I want to see if him and I could be something but at the same time I am scared of losing feelings and reject him. I am looking forward to the day where I get rejected tbh
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@AJogol Because than I know that I can feel something for someone again..
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@AJogol wow its nice to know someone can relate but i also know how sucky it feels because its basically self sabotage which can end up being lonely i hope we both break these patterns one day 🙏
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@Anonymously Nice to hear that. I hope the best for you too, we are going to get through this. And yes it’s actually self sabotage and I think I need to work on my self to feel more confident and safe❤️
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He had his ex move back in than when I saw her jewelry in a mirror picture he sent I asked who’s it was and he called me crazy ! Love my life ! (been in 4 relationships and 3/4 of them cheated on me) this is typical for me I don’t trust anyone
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im sorry that sucks it makes sense why you have trust issues i know its hard not to bring our past into new relationships but hopefully we can get out of self destructive patterns sending good vibes your way i hope it all works out 🙏
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@Anonymously Thank you I appreciate it, same to you💖
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- 25w
I realized I’ve depended a lot on my boyfriend for comfort through my ocd, and I’m starting to feel like even before my ocd I was paying more attention to the relationship itself more than him, or the attachment: even though I remember distinct feelings of me wanting to be with him forever, and feeling so happy and complete with him, time didn’t exist, I felt like my most authentic self. So now I’m trying to create a healthy attachment and see him as his own person, which was helping at first, but now it feels as if I’m seeing that I don’t actually love him for him, the thought of moving forward in life without him breaks my heart and I don’t want to but my mind keeps telling me that I want it because of the attachment. He’s the exact type of person and partner I would want but it feels like whatever I feel is not enough.. But I DO experience moments of affection and care and admiration for him but they don’t last long..before I started making this shift in perspective even with the ocd I was still so sure and confident in moving forward with him, I felt so much like I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life. But now that I’ve made this shift it feels like I’m seeing him from a whole different place. Like all those good and happy feelings I had for him are gone now and I don’t have any confidence in what I want anymore. Before I did feel confident that I wanted to be with him but now it feels like there’s this wall between him and me :( I want to be with him I know I do, because even now I still feel the desire to keep going, but I can’t see the future anymore or the confidence to keep going. I was never much of a future thinker, even in my personal life but this feels like added proof I feel like I’m alone in this like no one else has this situation and the chances for me to realize after I recover that I don’t actually love him are so much higher 💔
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i recently about six days ago ? started talking with someone with the intention of being friends and we’d talk a couple of times a day every for the past six days. But i immediately grew incredibly attached and obsessed with them i have no idea why it’s been driving me crayz. it didn’t help when they teased (?) me i guess and said if my compliments or well praise to soemthing they had done was flirting. it hasn’t left my mind at all. i don’t know what to do or why i’m feeling like this. and the worst part is i can’t say anything to them because i’ll just look weird i bet. i can’t help it i think about them so much and i check their stuff a lot and my lockscreen so much to see if they’ve texted me… is there any way to help with this ? it’s been really draining and causing me to overthink really badly.
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do u get a fear that after the intrusive feelings (false attraction) that you will Get romantic feelings after this all ends? because i do. especially bc i was hyperfixated on the guy in the past
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