Hi everyone I’m new here ! I have a child that i suspect has bad thought ocd. Does anyone have children with this?

Hi, this started for him around 3 weeks ago. I listen to every thing he says and have done so much research on it that i know he doesn’t really mean these thoughts he is having. Nothing violent but he said he had a thought he hated me and he cried when telling me saying he loves me. I just want him better and will be here for him through this.

@brooke04 I'm glad you are helping him through this. I'm sure you already know what to say, but you could tell him that everyone gets thoughts they don't want sometimes and they don't always match how you really feel.

@Anonymous I’ll do whatever i can to help him. This is new for us and hard but we will get through this. He is seeing his ref doc today and I’m sure he is going to want to set him up with a therapist . He said he only feels comfortable talking to me so I’m really not sure what to about that.

@brooke04 I’m so happy there are parents like you who are understanding and doing research!

@Cassandragoth Thank you!!! I try really hard!

@brooke04 if he only feels comfy talking to u about it, had u looked into family therapy? sometimes an approach is to have the child talk to the therapist alone& then bring in the parent/s later to discuss everything together. that could be helpful for him perhaps

@lmaocd🍓🥰 or maybe for the first session u could sit in with him until he gets comfortable being on his own

Did you learn anything to help?

@brooke04 I eventually learned to not care and not be bothered. I had little issues with it until covid

@Anonymous Maybe Covid brought this on with him

@brooke04 There is a good chance. Social isolation, the same environment, and school with covid could be a huge factors. Maybe try getting him out of the house and find something fun that he likes.

Does he go see a therapist or is it virtually? He says he isn’t ready to talk to anyone but i feel like that’s best. Is your son on meds?

@brooke04 We do virtual NOCD. The therapists are great. He can tell them any thought he has. Believe me, my son has said it all. They will teach him how to sit with the thought and learn to not let it bother them. What they are doing by telling us is confession. It’s a compulsion. My son confesses the thought and looks for reassurance from me. That only makes the OCD stronger. I refuse to provide reassurance at this stage. I tell him I’m not talking to his OCD. The therapy does work. He is not on meds. At this point, he doesn’t need them. He is learning how to not let his thoughts bother him.

@Anonymous Yes every hour he is wanting to tell me something. So in therapy they teach them to not tell us? How do i get him signed up for vitural? Is it in your area?

@Anonymous Is it on this site? I’m not familiar with this site yet i just joined yesterday

@brooke04 Telling you is a compulsion. He is seeking to confess and get reassurance. Compulsions and reassurance only make the OCD stronger.They will teach him to realize that while we all have garbage thoughts, in his mind they stick around like a hiccup. He needs to recognize the thoughts as OCD and not argue with the thoughts or do any compulsions. Eventually he won’t be bothered by the thoughts and they will go away. Telling you is a compulsion. NOCD- you call them and they set up a phone call with you. They match you up with a therapist. Make sure to ask for one that is good Witt children. His first one was not and I asked for another one. They basically give them 6 hour long sessions- twice a week. During this time they teach them how to deal with their ocd. Then after they take it down to 30minute once a week sessions to check in. It has absolutely helped my kid.

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There are many. Click on the "Therepist" button at the center bottom of the screen. You'll see options like book a free call

@Anonymous I see it now but i wonder if they will accept his insurance

@brooke04 when u book the free call, the representative on the june will tell u if they take the insurance

@lmaocd🍓🥰 i meant to say on the phone not on the june lol

@brooke04 If they don’t accept the insurance- they have payment plans that are very affordable.

@Anonymous They don’t I’m sad! I’m talking to his doctor today I’m sure there are some in my area that he can see

@brooke04 You can also train yourself to do it. You expose him to the fear. So for us, we had to have a knife sitting right by us where we were together. It had to be where he could see it and grab it. It made him uncomfortable and then he was ok with it and that fear went away. All I can say is that the majority of mental health treatments are not covered by insurance. We pay 100 every other Friday for the nocd and we did have an option of 50 bucks a week. This was very hard for us as with covid money is tight. But it’s only for a limited amount of time. Or you can teach yourself how to help him which in the end I kind of have to do. It does help them tremendously to talk to someone who knows what he Is going through.. best of luck to you and reach out if you need any advice from what I’ve learned or just need to vent.

@Anonymous Is there anyway to private message you

@brooke04 Not through this site and I doubt either one of us want to share our personal information here. I feel for you. This isn’t easy but it will get better. You have to get a diagnosis for him- either through NOCD therapist or any therapist. Once you do- research ERP. If he has OCD, he needs therapy first. ERP therapy. I wish you all the best and you can reach out to me through this link. Hang in there!