My mind is making me think I have a crush on this boy and I don't. I dont know how to sit with this anxiety. I keep.looking at pictures of him and because I thought he looked kind of nice in a couple pictures my OCD says I like him and I want to message him. No one seems to understand. This is making me cry and I feel like it must be real but I can't tell. I just want to cry. Can anyone please help me. My mind is confusing me to the point where I am thinking it is real

Ugh. Its so hard. I am a girl and Im straight but I dont like this person and it is making me anxious

Im so sorry. That sounds similar. My thing is I'm single so like I could date him I just don't really want to. I dont even know him. We just met and he gave me his number. I keep getting thoughts like "give him a chance" but I really dont want to but my intrusive thoughts say otherwise

@Anonymous I'm assuming people would tell you to give him a chance and you're probably echoing that. But if you genuinely made up your mind about not being interested in this person, you can always gently say no. Or you can just talk with no expectations if you feel like it. I did some journaling about what I was feeling and tried to make sense of my anxiety. Eventually I kep talking to the guy without overreacting. So it kinda worked.

@SensibleMari I mean I don't know. I just of just made up my mind. I dont really feel like texting him tbh. I don't know why. It makes me feel like I'm just shallow or something. I mean basically he just gave me his number and said if you want to chat here's my number and I had decided no but my mind has gone over and over it again in my mind. Do you really not want to? Are you sure you don't like him? Are you just shallow? Its torturing me :( I mean its not a big deal. I just don't want to message him...

@Anonymous Hm I see. I second guess myself a lot so I understand you. But looks like you just made up your mind so you just have to stay firm on your decision and not think about it anymore. You're not a bad person just because you're not interested.

@SensibleMari Yeah you're right. I guess its just like I don't know him so it seems like I should just message him but when we met he didn't really seem my type and I wasn't really attracted. I mean I noticed he looked at me and so I was looking to see if he still was but I wasn't looking for him but now I keep looking at his IG to make sure I don't like him and then I had a thought that he looked kind of nice in one photo and now my brain says "proof" you want to message him but I still don't but my mind is making me more and more confused.... I literally wad crying all day over it like that doesn't really sound like someone who is interested

@Anonymous Aww you got trapped in your mind. It's ok don't be so hard on yourself. For now you don't want to message him. If anything changes you'll know and then you can act accordingly. Just keep going about your life and you'll be fine.

@SensibleMari Thank you SensibleMari. I guess I just feel obligated to and to keep checking my feelings and stuff and I feel sick to my stomach. I'm not sure if this OCD. My therapist says it probably is but I didn't tell her what it was about just that I was worried. I don't know how to tell or if I really just want to text him now even though I don't but i am getting confused