this is non OCD related . my mom does not like my boyfriend . bc we dated in the past and it didn’t end well he didn’t cheat but he did have some unresolved issues and it was put onto me so we broke up and recently we got back together and she’s very upset about it and i’m 17 so she was saying how i have to pay my car bills and stuff now if i want to do whatever i want and i get it . but i just want things to be okay . i feel like i’m in the wrong and i tell her it’s not her place to make the decision for me and all this but she says that she hates him and i’m stressed out

right and i’ve tried to i get it . but he’s gotten a LOT better . he tries really hard to understand my anxiety and stuff and my OCD . i’m not allowed to work anymore or see friends and she called my work and said i’m not coming anymore . so i have to find a new job to start paying bills . it breaks my heart

@LifeIsBeautiful That seems pretty coercive to me, but again, I don't don't the full story. Surely it's up to you if you want to keep a job? It's your Dad/co-parent around? What do they say about it?

@FalseGods he says i live off of lies so it’s my fault and that the reason this is all happening is because of me . it’s like i don’t really know what to do because i am happy with him i really am , it’s not like i’m coming home crying and am sad everyday . but my mom idk it’s like it’s not making her happy and she said he was a loser and will have no future but he’s going into the military and is working 2-12:30 shifts and she just kept saying that i’m stupid and so is he and yeah

@LifeIsBeautiful Do you have another trusted adult you can go to with this? Someone who can help you out and maybe advocate for you?

@FalseGods i do , but idk how it can help . bc it’s like my mom doesn’t care when i try to get help and pitch in the advice i’m given she’s like idc i’m your mom and stuff i know what’s best but it hurts and i can’t even tell my boyfriend about it because i know it will hurt him a lot .

@LifeIsBeautiful Unfortunately parents are flawed humans like the rest of us and act in crappy ways, but usually (not always, granted) from a place of care and worry for you. If this guy hurt you before, the maybe he does need to know what's going on and maybe he also needs to take some responsibility in this and make amends with your parents?

i do , but it’s like they can’t really help . because in the past when i’ve tried to talk to them and they give me advice and i go back with my mom and try it out , it doesn’t work . she just says she doesn’t care she knows what’s best for me and stuff . deep down it makes me so sad . because he makes me so happy . and he tries so hard . and i can’t tell him about this because it will break him