Can someone anwser a question if they can please?

Not really

You can tell me and I can see if I can help you. I know that hocd is to do with liking the same sex and thinking that you are gay

That’s ok. All you have to do is to sit with your thoughts and anxiety and don’t do any compulsions. It will pass soon. You can do this. I have faith in you.

Ocd will always make you feel that your thoughts are real and will try to convince you but in reality they are not real. Don’t feed into the ocd cycle. It will make it worse.

Its constantly on my mind 24/7 and i do struggle to concentrate on life itself i feel like im on auto pilot. I avoid sometimes like certain tv programmes and movies😞

I just want to love women like i once did it breaks my heart. I got diagnosed the other day but i still doubt because of these feelings etc ..

@Ihateocd83 It sounds like that’s definitely OCD but that still doesn’t mean it’s wrong to fantasize about men— it’s just that it’s interfering with your life. Some people’s sexualities change at different points in their life and they are more attracted to one gender or another, and that’s a big enough freak out that it could definitely trigger OCD if your core attractions change. And you can be attracted to women in person but fantasize about men in your head without wanting to do anything with a man in real life, and that’s also totally okay. Remind yourself that fantasizing about men is totally normal— even for straight guys— and that can help you with finding healthy ways to do it that don’t interfere with your life. We live in a society that stigmatizes gayness so much that just thinking you might be can be scary as heck and makes it scary to have these fantasies to the degree that it can cause you to have OCD about it. If it wasn’t potentially scary, it wouldn’t crawl into your brain in a way that makes you obsess about it. It sounds like definitely something to discuss with an OCD therapist— definitely find one who is LGBTQ-friendly, because you want to make sure they know the difference between having gay thoughts and having an OCD and won’t treat you like it would bad to have gay fantasies out of the obsessive way you are having them that is impacting your quality of life. Good luck!

@Barbara Jane Thankyou .... i have had this going on since i was 22 im 38 nearly and things after 8 months ago got really bad. My head is just a mess i say stuff i cant control i never thought things could get this bad ... and all this after 1 thought when i was 22 it just doesnt make sense 😞