Why do therapist always ask if you had the thoughts prior to the OCD or not? Which answer are they looking for or what does it mean if you did or didn’t?

Yeah exactly! For me I played inappropriately as a young kid. The one event I don’t know my age and I had 1 therapist tell me that meant I was questioning myself (mind you I was so young that I definitely had no idea what sexuality was!!) and then this therapist now asked me if I thought about this any other time... like so I never have does that change anything!? Or if I have does that mean it’s true?

@Justmesadly Ooof yeah I can definitely see why that would be extremely triggering!! But no, kids do a lot of dumb stuff at a young age and if you weren’t even aware of sexuality how could you have possibly been questioning, is your therapist an ocd therapist??

@Pinklotus Yeah exactly... but it was so triggering when she said that. The therapist that said that was not an OCD therapist. My current therapist is an OCD therapist

@Justmesadly Haha yeah even I got a little triggered but ultimately we get to choose the thoughts and values we want , anything else is just white noise of thoughts. How is your new therapist? :)

@Pinklotus Sorry I didn’t mean to trigger you! I’m sprialing again! I love my new therapist! It’s an NOCD therapist and she’s incredible! The first time I haven’t had anxiety about going to therapy

@Justmesadly No don’t worry!! But that’s amazing I’m glad she understands! It’s so hard to explain ocd from the outside

@Pinklotus It for sure makes it easier but i still worry about judgement! Do you have real event or HOCd?

@Justmesadly Yup me too! Well my themes switch or they interlap sometimes, for example right now my main theme is hocd but since I’m in a relationship I also have rocd since I doubt my connection to my partner and at times I do obsess over things I’ve said and done in the past before I realized I had ocd because I feel like I ruined many friendships and hurt my relationship

@Pinklotus Okay yeah my themes over lap and switch too! I have hocd and real event. Like I think the hocd may have been triggered by the real event. Who knows. I think now looking back I also had rocd when I was in a relationship.

@Justmesadly Haha glad to know I’m not alone! What sucks is that although my childhood is filled with signs that I probably had ocd even then, it hit so hard during the pandemic.

@Pinklotus I don’t think I have any signs of having ocd as a child... I started having anxiety disorder around 2nd grade but that’s all. You’re for sure not alone. I just discovered my OCD when stress was extremely high at a shit show job

@Justmesadly Oh wow that must’ve been so difficult and honestly it’s such a struggle when you don’t know what it is because you treat your thoughts as reality. Are you still at the same job?

@Pinklotus Luckily the thoughts didn’t feel normal to me. And I hadn’t thought about this event since it happened. Now looking back I think that the memory came up as trying to be proof to the hocd ? But not helpful that that therapist said it meant something. No i got fired after 11 months

@Justmesadly Oh that’s good then! Yeah it’s amazing how our brain uses anything to make us doubt and well thats good at least :)

@Pinklotus And therapist definitely didn’t help haha

@Pinklotus So annoying! Yes thank goodness

Exactly! Both of my OCD therapist asked me it!

@Justmesadly That terrifying! I hope you’re okay now! I’m hoping to start therapy with NOCD next week and I think I’ll start spiralling if they ask me this

Oh wow that’s so good to hear! Are you with NOCD? :)

@MelodyOCD Oops I meant to reply to you for that one! But yes it’s with NOCD. The first 2 therapists I saw weren’t with them

Girl, I was literally puking and more but it’s worth it

Huh? My question is about the thoughts. Therapists ask did you have these thoughts before you had ocd. So like if you have SO-OCD did you want to be with whatever gender then suddenly you are triggered and have OCD. Or did you never consider that and now you have OCD

@Justmesadly Ah okay sorry. I understand now.