Not ocd related but lately I feel like one of my friends has been dragging me down. Whenever we text I feel like she dictates what we talk about and when we see each other in person all she does is talk about herself and her problems , but if I try bringing something about myself she’ll give a very short response or just ignore me. She’s been going through a lot and I understand so I hear her out and I try to give her advice when she asks for it, but lately it’s like she picks and chooses what to hear and if we’re not talking about her she won’t answer. Usually this doesn’t bother me and I’m okay with it but it’s been so much of it lately that I feel kind of fed up. She’s a good friend and I’m happy she can confide in me, but I also have myself going on and I wish she’d be more considerate of that. Any advice ?

Don’t be her friend

Talk to her about it don't shut her out yet you never know

I've have a friend who I feel like has been dragging me down recently too. So I just wanted to share some of the insight I just learned, in case that it might also be true for your situation...have you considered or thought about the possibility that you might be "outgrowing" her? By "outgrowing", I mean like outgrowing her in terms of emotional maturity and mental well being. It sounds like you and your friend have both been going through a lot recently. But let's say just for example, that your friend might still be a little stuck in her problems, or still weighed down by everything she's going through, so she might not have made much progress in dealing with some of the stuff she's struggling with and going through. But on the other hand, maybe you have been doing some work on yourself and maybe you've been taking steps to grow and steps to become healthier mentally, so maybe there's a possibility that you might have just "outgrown" her, like in terms of your mental health. Maybe you're just becoming emotionally healthier than where she is right now, which is why it might not have bothered you a lot in the past but why you're kind of getting fed up recently. Sorry, it's kind of hard to explain what I mean, lol. But maybe just try to think about and reflect on some of the ways in which y'all might not really be on the "same page" any more, in terms of where you both are in your mental health journey. Good luck, I hope you're able to find a positive resolution soon. Sending strength and positivity your way! 💜

Hm well she’s there for me when I get anxious, even if she doesn’t understand what’s going on in my head. Usually she’s a good friend and she listens to what I have to say or gives me advice, it’s just these past 2 months where she’s really started to bring me down with this behavior.