my parents still treat me like a child i’m almost 18 . my parents have never liked my boyfriend from the beginning . we broke up for some time and for back together recently and i kept it from my parents bc of how they reacted when we first dated . our relationship has been great but i hate being home and he has always noticed that there were bad vibes in the house so he would come over but he never looked happy and i wasn’t happy either . we would have to stay on the couch and were not allowed to even touch each other . when i go to his house i can do whatever we can cook we can have fun . my mom said that i can go to his house once a week for 2 - 3 hours but i’m almost 18 and i’ve had those rules for years . she said if i want to be treated like an adult i have to act like one so i’m trying to show out , wash my clothes and such . i’m so annoyed . it makes me want to move out . bc they’ve been like that when i had friends too . i’m tired . i’m so tired

Sounds rough, at least u have a bae lol

So...move out as best as you can. If you go to school/work etc, try picking up roommates to distribute the cost. Trust me I get it. My parents are foreign. Even when they were more liberal than other FOBS, still annoying. Spend as much time outside your house as possible. And honestly l, just don't tell them where you're going. If you are doing you're best to be responsible given your circumstance, then they can feel whatever they want to feel.

Ok so if they're doing that it sounds like they do not respect your adulthood. Look my parents gave said that too. And I hate to say it...even if I love them, that's manipulation (probably displaced emotions too). Do you have any family members you trust that you can talk to?

Listen I was a rebellious teen, seriously my parents were foreign and hated me being out and hated my boyfriends so I snuck out. I look back and see they were trying to protect me and thought I deserved the best , and I see that my s.o weren't the healthiest at the time. My dad wasn't a nice guy by any means and the way my parents fought always made me hate being home. I barely graduated highschool . I got a 1.5 . I'm in college now getting a 3.79. Living on your own is a big responsibility. I'm about to be 23 now and at 20 I did leave home for awhile only to find dishes were piling up and I wasn't eating right and I was just drinking and getting high with my friends. Wasn't ever the over the top but I realized I did still need to be with my parents, so I came back home. How are your grades? Are they slipping are they low? Sometimes we get so consumed in being with our boyfriends at that age that we miss out on the things we are supposed to be doing like doing well in school, clubs, sports if possible . I don't like some of the advice on this thread saying to not communicate with your parents, if anything you need /more/ communication with your parents so they can see where you're coming from and you can discuss what you wish they wouldn't do and so u can see where they're coming from and most of all to keep you safe. You guys need to work together and establish boundaries.

It does get better and one day you will have the independence you want! And it'll feel great! So Right now focus on creating stability in things you can control like school so that you can get to a place where you will be driving, working , and having healthy relationships without you one day. If you throw away all your responsibilities now in depression and being with your boyfriend, you'll have to be playing catch up later. You will /have to/ catch up because you will have no choice. Your parents will not be around forever. Your relationship might not even be together, most high school ones don't, but if you told me that when I was 17 I'd probably have fought someone because I looooved my boyfriend at the time who had just as many home problems as me, if not more. Eventually you realize you want people who have their shit together lol.