How do I stop giving meaning to my OCD? Any advice? 🥺

Thank you Daria, I know it's pretty hard, but after all, we are dealing with a very intelligent issue...

@Ambra Yes 100%...

Thank you very much🌸

I have harm OCD towards myself, and I tend to believe (even if I don't want to) what my OCD says to me

@Ambra Yes, exactly. And it makes you feel as if you're lying if you are saying or thinking what you want to think.

@Daria Alexandrovna In my case it's not like that...my OCD comes as an order or a command, it says to me that I actually have to kill myself because I have no other choice, because I'm "obligated" to act on my thought (even if I don't want to as I said earlier). My harm OCD didn't use to come at me in this way, it'll usually come like a "what if" question; but because of an exposure that I did on purpose I got so triggerd that my OCD ended up changing form (not theme) and come at me in this way that wants to "punish" me for that exposure that I did a few days ago

@Ambra That's bad! Do you have a therapist to talk about it and fix it

@Daria Alexandrovna Nope, I can't afford a therapist :(

@Ambra That's very bad maybe nocd therapy or something else, try to find a video on urges like this and what to do

@Ambra Ok thanks for the explanation. So I’m pretty far along in the recovery of OCD after 10 years of struggle. Still some hiccups where I catch myself doing a compulsion, but that’s life. Advice that has changed my life is this- Whatever is going on in my brain, is none of my business. It’s hard to grasp at first, but once you comprehend this aspect, your mental health will start to improve. Our thoughts are things we experience. They are real thoughts. They can be “good” thoughts or “bad” thoughts. But I don’t put any meaning toward them. So that means I don’t label them as “good or bad” they are just brain digestion. Thoughts are going to happen no matter what. Farts that come out of my ass are an experience. They are real farts. But I don’t label them as “good or bad” they are just farts and they are just stomach digestion. Your brain is just an organ like any organ in your body and it will do things automatically. Your thoughts and feelings do not define who you are. For example- let’s say tonight you are cooking dinner for yourself. You’re using a knife to cut some veggies. Out of the blue you get the thought “What if I stab myself right now?” You just had a thought. Maybe you get anxiety from that thought, maybe you don’t. Ultimately it was a thought. Practice not labeling that thought as good or bad. Let that question just sit there- don’t answer the question, that would be a compulsion. You don’t have to answer the questions in your head. You value making dinner for yourself so you can nourish your body. So continue making dinner. OCD just cares about the compulsions. Learn to cut out the compulsions and don’t label thoughts in your head and your mental health will start to improve slowly over time 😊

@outdoorman Thanx

@Daria Alexandrovna Thank you Daria💜

@Ambra Resist your urges, hope everything is going to get better <3

@outdoorman Thank you so much, really appreciated❤️

@Daria Alexandrovna Thank you, I hope the same thing for you too❤️

@Ambra Thank you! I love this community and I am very happy that this way we aren't alone

@Daria Alexandrovna I love this community too ✨