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I think you’re absolutely right. Personally i use this forum as a place to vent and feel like im not alone, but its easy to get carried away into asking questions that could not be beneficial for you
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Depends how you use it. I don’t think I have tried to seek reassurance on here even one time. There are no therapists on here, however (I think) this group is monitored so anything that is truly unhealthy will probably be removed. Also this group could be helpful in the way that maybe someone doesn’t realize what they are doing is seeking reassurance (as long as we don’t provide it to them) they can become aware of this unhealthy behavior.
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I know you probably mean no harm, but I think this forum is a really healthy place for OCD sufferers and a reflection of society’s growing acknowledgement and acceptance of mental illness. I rarely see people seeking reassurance on this forum and when they do the rest of the community is cautious not to feed the vicious cycle that is OCD. It’s phenomenal that, in this day and age, we are able to connect with others over something that has been so stigmatised for so long and once left people segregated from communities. We often help each other through feelings of discomfort without running away from problems. I believe it could actually help people get on with their life by providing a medium in which understanding can be experienced. It could also help people in a bad place feel like they’re contributing to a greater good by helping others. I’m so sorry if this sounded rude, I just really want this place to be a filled with hope and positivity. I hope you have a wonderful day! d a i s y
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- 6y
That’s why it’s important to read the guidelines of this group. Don’t reassure, dont try to give medical advice, don’t try and diagnose anyone. I think it’s fine to see if others struggle with the same thing we do and what helped them through (ie going to therapy, using the tools within this app). But someone asking if it’s ocd or not. Or someone asking if the thoughts are real are only going to make matters worse
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- 6y
Also, mental illness is rarely black and white when it comes to diagnoses. OCD often comes along with anxiety and/or depression, and sometimes, it’s helpful to feel like you have a supportive community and create a level of access intimacy for these things. I’ve seen people get a little upset on here when you don’t reassure them, but that’s a them thing. I agree (if used correctly) it’s useful!
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- 6y
Thanks for all replies. My suggestion is to use it wisely. And, as for diagnosis, trust the doctors. Do not self-diagnose yourself with depression or anxiety or other stuff. I think this is important.
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- 23w
I was going to ask for advice and vent after i just had an episode but reading through everyones post on here. I can see that everyone is collectively struggling at the moment and i think we need to utilize this community for more than just sharing our sadness. Nothing is wrong with venting of course but i feel like there isnt enough positive energy here to encourage everyone to keep going. I know asking for reassure feels like a must sometimes and trust me everyone has asked for it, it was a heavy compulsion of mine. But reassure is not what you need. It will make it worse everyone please trust me. Instead of letting out mind win we must support each other, understand our struggles but also share out wins. I feel like we dont use this community enough for finding friendship among us or spreading enough happiness. OCD Is not a happy disorder but seeing that everyone here is just here either hating on someone, people being too afraid to ask for help or no one reading peoples post. This place isnt just for our negative thoughts and events to fester we need to support each other here too! Ask for help, comment on peoples post with love everyone is struggling. In this community we should help pull each other out from dark places not let them stay there. I hope everyone who is going through it right has a better night/day/afternoon. You’re loved deeply your not a monster, your not evil, your not dirty, your not a heretic your Nothing your thoughts tell you are. Peace to you🤍🤍🤍🤍
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- 20w
Looking back, my introverted nature and struggles to find belonging in high school may have set the stage for how OCD would later impact my relationships. I had my first relationship in high school, but OCD wasn’t a major factor then. It wasn’t until my longest relationship—six years from age 18 to 24—that OCD really took hold. The relationship itself wasn’t the issue; it was what happened after. When it ended, I became obsessed with confessing past mistakes, convinced I had to be completely transparent. Even when my partner was willing to work past them, I couldn’t let go of the intrusive thoughts, and that obsession landed me in the hospital. From there, my struggle with ROCD (Relationship OCD) fully emerged. For years, every time I tried to move forward in dating, doubts consumed me. I would start seeing someone and feel fine, but then the questions would creep in: Do I really like her? Do I find her attractive? Is she getting on my nerves? What if I’m with the wrong person? I’d break things off, thinking I was following my true feelings. But then I’d question: Was that really how I felt, or was it just OCD? I tried again and again, each time hoping I could “withstand it this time,” only to fall back into the same cycle. The back and forth hurt both me and the person I was with. By the time I realized it was ROCD, the damage had been done, and I still hadn’t built the tools to manage it. Now, at 28, I know I need to approach dating differently. I recently talked to someone from a dating app, and my OCD still showed up—questioning my every move, making me doubt my own decisions. I haven’t yet done ERP specifically for ROCD, but I know that’s my next step. Just like I’ve learned tools for managing my other OCD subtypes, I need a set of strategies for when intrusive doubts hit in relationships. My goal this year is to stop letting uncertainty control me—to learn how to sit with doubt instead of trying to “figure it out.” I want to break the cycle and be able to build something healthy without my OCD sabotaging it. I know I’m not alone in this, and I know healing is possible. I’m hopeful that working with a therapist will help me develop exposures and thought loops to practice. I don’t expect to eliminate doubt entirely—after all, doubt is a part of every relationship—but I want to reach a place where it doesn’t paralyze me. Where I can move forward without constantly questioning whether I should. And where I can be in a relationship without feeling like OCD is pulling the strings. I would appreciate hearing about your experiences with ROCD. Please share your thoughts or any questions in the comments below. I’d love to connect and offer my perspective. Thanks!
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- 13w
Hello i got this app hoping to maybe find some support for my partner i thought about reddit but reddit has become a hateful place and i figured this is a safe place. i love my partner more than anything and he’s been struggling with OCD his whole life he has a hard time talking about it with anyone because it’s too painful he’s stated that it’s gotten worse as he’s gotten older His biggest issue right now is overwhelming thoughts of his actions having tragic outcomes and being unable to stop these obsessive thoughts (such as needing to check out door handle 5 times to make sure it’s locked but still panicking that it’s unlocked) he’s not open to one on one therapy or meds although he loves learning and watching informative videos i fear he’s afraid to confront his OCD or just afraid nothing will help i really wanna help him live a stress free and happy life he deserves it would anyone possibly have any ways to naturally help with OCD or recommend any great individuals that could share techniques on managing OCD or helping your partner with OCD? i would very much appreciate it!
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