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- 7y
- Date posted
- 7y
I think you’re absolutely right. Personally i use this forum as a place to vent and feel like im not alone, but its easy to get carried away into asking questions that could not be beneficial for you
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- 7y
Depends how you use it. I don’t think I have tried to seek reassurance on here even one time. There are no therapists on here, however (I think) this group is monitored so anything that is truly unhealthy will probably be removed. Also this group could be helpful in the way that maybe someone doesn’t realize what they are doing is seeking reassurance (as long as we don’t provide it to them) they can become aware of this unhealthy behavior.
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- 7y
I know you probably mean no harm, but I think this forum is a really healthy place for OCD sufferers and a reflection of society’s growing acknowledgement and acceptance of mental illness. I rarely see people seeking reassurance on this forum and when they do the rest of the community is cautious not to feed the vicious cycle that is OCD. It’s phenomenal that, in this day and age, we are able to connect with others over something that has been so stigmatised for so long and once left people segregated from communities. We often help each other through feelings of discomfort without running away from problems. I believe it could actually help people get on with their life by providing a medium in which understanding can be experienced. It could also help people in a bad place feel like they’re contributing to a greater good by helping others. I’m so sorry if this sounded rude, I just really want this place to be a filled with hope and positivity. I hope you have a wonderful day! d a i s y
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- 7y
That’s why it’s important to read the guidelines of this group. Don’t reassure, dont try to give medical advice, don’t try and diagnose anyone. I think it’s fine to see if others struggle with the same thing we do and what helped them through (ie going to therapy, using the tools within this app). But someone asking if it’s ocd or not. Or someone asking if the thoughts are real are only going to make matters worse
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- 7y
Also, mental illness is rarely black and white when it comes to diagnoses. OCD often comes along with anxiety and/or depression, and sometimes, it’s helpful to feel like you have a supportive community and create a level of access intimacy for these things. I’ve seen people get a little upset on here when you don’t reassure them, but that’s a them thing. I agree (if used correctly) it’s useful!
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- 7y
Thanks for all replies. My suggestion is to use it wisely. And, as for diagnosis, trust the doctors. Do not self-diagnose yourself with depression or anxiety or other stuff. I think this is important.
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- 25w
Common posts on here are "i had a thought" "why am i thinking this" "what if" and these are all OCDs way of making you doubt yourself while taking you round and round in never ending circles at the same time. Regardless of the theme you are facing, there is no "figuring out" or "making sense" of a thought, because it isn't a real situation - it's a passing word or image or scenario without any meaning attached. You can't control your thoughts and the more you "don't want to have them" the more they will appear. For instance, tell yourself not to think about "apples", it will be the first thing that comes to your mind, because that's just how our minds work. Once you categorise a thought as "bad", every time it comes into your mind, your anxiety level will go up and this makes the thought seem real. Because if it "Feels" this bad, surely it must mean something or must have happened - But none of this is true. All we have to do is naturally notice thoughts as they come up, and rather than try to assess or ruminate over the content, we can almost shrug them off. It's the only way to accept thoughts as simply thoughts and nothing more. Anxiety drives the intense feeling and the more attention you give to thoughts, the more power they have over you. No random thought can change your real intentions. OCD is never ever satisfied, so the only way forward is to accept the uncertainty of never knowing "for sure" and to class the unwanted thought as irrelevant. OCD says "quick..bad thought..feels horrible.. what does it mean.. fix it". But in reality there is nothing bad here or nothing to be fixed, it's a false alarm. Once you learn to respond to a thought calmly by working on anxiety, it gets easier over time. It's your perception of your thoughts that needs to change, you believe they mean something about you, but random things pop into our heads all the time - both things we like and things we don't. OCD also latches onto what we care about most and it always comes with a feared consequence, so think about what yours is, e.g "what happens if my worst fear comes true" you can then practice imaginal exposure which is imagining your worst case scenario over and over until you become desensitised to it and no longer fear it - therapists use this technique in sessions. Everyone in the world has thoughts, the thoughts are not the issue, you just get more of what you focus on, up until the point that you can change your attitude towards the thought. If I asked you if you went upstairs today you would have an answer straight away, however if I asked you a question related to your OCD theme, your anxiety would increase and you would doubt yourself, because that's OCD doing the thinking for you. Once you give it less power it becomes a less significant part of your day. It's so easy to give into compulsions as they feel like a "quick fix".. but as I mentioned, ocd is never happy, which is why it wants us to continue to check and seek reassurance. Once you start reducing and gradually stopping compulsions, whether this is rumination, checking, or a physical action (whatever you falsely believe is "keeping you safe" from your feared consequence) you will see it's not necessary to do them, and that the time consuming little things you have taught yourself to do have no effect on what actually happens in real life. Thoughts prompt feelings and feelings prompt actions - meaning - thoughts cause anxiety and anxiety drives unnecessary actions. As a side note, I overcame contamination ocd (I was in a very very bad way and now the theme doesn't bother me anymore). I still have OCD and it can affect me slightly at times, but i can manage it in a way that it doesn't interfere with my day and without the need to carry out compulsions. Please practice, because I promise it helps, it's super scary at first and extremely difficult but the end result is worth it. ERP therapy is also very helpful.
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- 24w
Ok so I just downloaded this app like two days ago because I was looking for a OCD specialist. Maybe this is just my opinion but the posting’s on this app can be super triggering. If feels like even sharing your experience on an app like this can contribute to fueling OCD. So many people I see reassurance seeking, confessing and posting the same things multiple times to gain certainty. Makes me wonder if this app is counterproductive to the point of OCD treatment. I’m guilty of spending hours scrolling through the post trying to find people who relate to me, but in the end it makes me more anxious and fuels my OCD. Idk what do you guys think.
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- 21w
I told my OCD group about NOCD and one of the members brought up that this app, despite its intent to create a safe community for sharing OCD experiences could potentially be used for reassurance seeking, thus contributing to compulsions. I’ve noticed some posts about people venting and asking for reassurance and I wonder the same thing.
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