I get really bad anxiety attacks at night. My boyfriend always used to let me phone him and he’d help me. He’s told me recently he can’t anymore because it’s too much. My entire ocd is based around people leaving me. I can’t tell whether it’s due to unlucky things or because he acc does need space. Bearing in mind I get where he is coming from but it’s just come on right around the time when I’m dealing with unlucky stuff being worst.

Ino that’s all true I just find it hard to underatnd how to do it myself

How do u come to the realisation u have to and can’t rely on other people?

Yeah that’s likely it but my anxiety is making me think the worst

Thank u that’s the best advice im definitely going to try be more self sufficient and especially at night. Would u know where I can get information about starting affirmations I’ve never done it before

@miaaa245 Affirmations can be something like “maybe this is true, but I’m going to sleep anyway.” Or, it can be something as minimal as allowing an intrusive thought or the feeling of panic to exist with no response, or simply telling the feeling “oh well” or “no.” My boyfriend often tells me that I need to tell my thoughts “no” rather than going in depth with them or giving my reassurance seeking compulsion more ammunition. He has OCD himself, so he’s able to understand what helps and what doesn’t in that respect. I also have adopted other techniques to lessen my anxiety and improve sleep too. This has included making a playlist of songs or sounds that calm me, so I can pull it up when I need to. I also keep a journal, so I can vent what I’m experiencing when there isn’t a person to do so with. I also practice breathing techniques (inhale counting to 4 and exhale counting to 8) to calm my physical state. Anything with heat is also helpful for me. I keep a heating pad in my room to use, or fix a cup of hot tea or keep my pet close. All of these things may need practice to feel effective, but they’ve made a difference for me. I hope this could be of some help.