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Hey. I don't know how much of a help my comment will be but I thought I will express something that helps me with my obessions. Stop watching porn or at least limit it to very, very little if you can't help it (you will get over it at some point). Dipping yourself in the waters of your obessions is not good for the brain. You might say that watching porn is something normal, a need but it is really not. Not trying to shame though. Just trying to say that it does have an effect on your mind. And I don't think that it is a good one. And liking your body is something very good, many struggle with exactly the opposite. Don't be concerned. Just don't think about it, push it away. And maybe enjoy some cold can of soda :)
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100% agree with this. If you ask me, porn is nothing but a drug designed for people to get addicted. It's one of the most well known businesses in our society and we still don't understand the negatives it can have on people, especially younger ones like Garden here. I'll be one to say that adult content and OCD SHOULD NOT mix. I wish I had learned that the easy way. Don't just try to stop watching it by only taking our word for it though. Reduce your time with it to see how it makes a difference for you. It could be interesting
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@BigGip09 That is a good idea. We support you garden 😊
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@Ana Stefan Thanks so much for your comment. This helps me too. Yes we are here for you OP, this is not to hurt you in any way, we are on your side!
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@BigGip09 thank you guys 🥲🥲 you make me feel safe!!
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I am not gonna give any good advice cause I don’t know what to say I have HOCD so I can relate to you on that level but have you tried therapy and maybe you get turned on by it cause it’s what you want and you want your partner to like that about you
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yeah i agree! i think being told my body parts are ‘sexual’ by wider society will inevitably make me see them as sexual, and fit for a romantic partner. i just hope it’s not a vanity thing☹️
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Well, everyone is attracted to their body in one way, not in you want to have intercourse with someone of the same body. Its like the motives of someone saying "Damn im hot" Thàt being, you know your attractive, which also means you find yourself attractive.
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I don't think it's that much of a bad thing to consider yourself attractive because that could be considered high confidence. Not a bad thing at all. However, I think you should stop watching porn or at the very least cut down on it. Porn could be the reason why you may think your own body turns you on, due to big breasts in general. I'm not even saying that it's bad for a straight woman to find big boobs attractive since they are a sexual body part for most people. I'm just saying that this could possible be a porn induced attraction and not something that came about naturally, and cutting off porn could make that attraction either decrease greatly or disappear completely. You finding your own breasts attractive shouldn't be a bad thing since I feel this way about my genitals. I just think it's a form of confidence and there isn't a problem with loving your body.
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I thought it was normal to be attracted to ur own body
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Same here. I see it as confidence and nothing more.
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@BigGip09 Ya I think that’s what masturabtion is all about
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@tanya29 I think there's ways to appreciate your body without the act of masturbation. But you can definitely explore what floats your boat though I suppose
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This has been bugging me a lot
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I hope our already existing comments can help you
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do you wanna talk about it? :)
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You both are so kind. Thank you! I’ll look through these comments and lyk (:
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@ ok!
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I totally understand
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- 21w
Why are things so real the first time they’re in my mind and then when I think about it later it’s easier for me to be like wtf?? I was watching a movie earlier and the young girl had developed more in the chest area than the last movie and I felt the desire to check her out so I did. Then later I let myself imagine her having sex and I liked it. But now looking back I’m like ew. The boys in the movie have also developed as the movie went on and I couldn’t help but think that in their real life they’ve probably woken up to boners and s*men and stuff. And looking back it’s just ugh. Idk if it’s sexual relevance but I genuinely let myself indulge in these thoughts and groinal responses and I remember thinking to myself I don’t want to be attracted to little kids and how do I stop myself (everyone has attractive qualities so in younger boys I see man like qualities). Idk I need help. I wouldn’t type this out if I truly believe I was messed up but I’m still scared
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I was looking up stuff about kinks, because my friend is trying to help me "get out there", and I took the bdsm test to see where I land on it. I got 100% vanilla, and I was a little embarassed so I decided to Google things like "is it normal to not have a lot of kinks" or "what % of the population is into kink" and when I scrolled down a bit, I clicked on one of the little suggestion things with the arrow that said "are men more prone to enjoying kink than women" and it revealed a blurb from the website that said that men are in fact more inclined to kink, but also mentioned that it also means they're more inclined to p*dophellia, which sort of set off all these questions in my head of like "Wait so if p*dophellia is just a kink, does that make it more likely that I have it? Because scientenists still don't know what causes it so what if events in my childhood led up to me having it to some extent" and I started kind of going down this internal rabbit hole of trying to figure out how likely it is that I have it or some form of it bc if it's just a kink and not a mental illness than it feels more feasible? Idk I'm a woman so ik it's not AS common in us but it's still possible. I'm doing a little better with redirecting my attention and cooling my anxiety but I had an onslaught of intrusive images before falling asleep like I used to have when I first started experiencing this fear. It's been really catapulting me back to the beginning and I find that I'm ruminating on when it started and if it really means I'm a p or not. I know it's classic ocd but it's hard when it doesn't feel that way ;-; anyway, I'm too scared to Google bc i know it'll be a form of reassurance but also I'm just scared of having anything related to that in my search history so I just thought I'd post here. Anyone else have conflicting thoughts like this?
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Hi everyone, I’ve been really anxious lately, and I just need to get this out of my head. Someone recently told me that maybe I’m bisexual — that I might be more sexually attracted to women, but more romantically attracted to men. That bisexuality is not 50/50. And ever since I heard that, I’ve been spiraling. The thing is: I don’t want this to be true. It scares me. I don’t feel romantic attraction to women, I’ve never wanted to be in a relationship with one. But yes, I get aroused by fantasies involving women — and that makes me feel broken or like I’ve been lying to myself. I love my boyfriend deeply, I don’t want to lose him. I want to feel fully connected to him, physically and emotionally. But now I’m stuck in this obsessive loop of questioning: “What if I’m just in denial?” “What if I’m not really straight?” “What if this is why my libido is low?” It’s exhausting, and I don’t know if this is OCD, anxiety, or if something is fundamentally wrong. Has anyone else felt this split — romantic feelings for one gender, sexual feelings for another? I feel so alone and scared. Thanks for listening.
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