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Hey. I don't know how much of a help my comment will be but I thought I will express something that helps me with my obessions. Stop watching porn or at least limit it to very, very little if you can't help it (you will get over it at some point). Dipping yourself in the waters of your obessions is not good for the brain. You might say that watching porn is something normal, a need but it is really not. Not trying to shame though. Just trying to say that it does have an effect on your mind. And I don't think that it is a good one. And liking your body is something very good, many struggle with exactly the opposite. Don't be concerned. Just don't think about it, push it away. And maybe enjoy some cold can of soda :)
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100% agree with this. If you ask me, porn is nothing but a drug designed for people to get addicted. It's one of the most well known businesses in our society and we still don't understand the negatives it can have on people, especially younger ones like Garden here. I'll be one to say that adult content and OCD SHOULD NOT mix. I wish I had learned that the easy way. Don't just try to stop watching it by only taking our word for it though. Reduce your time with it to see how it makes a difference for you. It could be interesting
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@BigGip09 That is a good idea. We support you garden 😊
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@Ana Stefan Thanks so much for your comment. This helps me too. Yes we are here for you OP, this is not to hurt you in any way, we are on your side!
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@BigGip09 thank you guys 🥲🥲 you make me feel safe!!
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I am not gonna give any good advice cause I don’t know what to say I have HOCD so I can relate to you on that level but have you tried therapy and maybe you get turned on by it cause it’s what you want and you want your partner to like that about you
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yeah i agree! i think being told my body parts are ‘sexual’ by wider society will inevitably make me see them as sexual, and fit for a romantic partner. i just hope it’s not a vanity thing☹️
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Well, everyone is attracted to their body in one way, not in you want to have intercourse with someone of the same body. Its like the motives of someone saying "Damn im hot" Thàt being, you know your attractive, which also means you find yourself attractive.
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I don't think it's that much of a bad thing to consider yourself attractive because that could be considered high confidence. Not a bad thing at all. However, I think you should stop watching porn or at the very least cut down on it. Porn could be the reason why you may think your own body turns you on, due to big breasts in general. I'm not even saying that it's bad for a straight woman to find big boobs attractive since they are a sexual body part for most people. I'm just saying that this could possible be a porn induced attraction and not something that came about naturally, and cutting off porn could make that attraction either decrease greatly or disappear completely. You finding your own breasts attractive shouldn't be a bad thing since I feel this way about my genitals. I just think it's a form of confidence and there isn't a problem with loving your body.
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I thought it was normal to be attracted to ur own body
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Same here. I see it as confidence and nothing more.
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@BigGip09 Ya I think that’s what masturabtion is all about
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@tanya29 I think there's ways to appreciate your body without the act of masturbation. But you can definitely explore what floats your boat though I suppose
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This has been bugging me a lot
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I hope our already existing comments can help you
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do you wanna talk about it? :)
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You both are so kind. Thank you! I’ll look through these comments and lyk (:
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@ ok!
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I totally understand
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I was in the car I suddenly noticed someone across the road, and I perceived something that looked attractive and se&ual, like exposed nice legs, and I thought, well let's look, it must be a woman. she wasn't. it was a trigger and i wasnt ready. she was wearing low cut shorts. and the thing is when i noticed how the body was too small i think it still looked someway attractive, my brain perceived that overall look as attractive or se&ual, like it "felt nice" (?) idk. it all happened very fast so i dont know a lot, but I got immediately disturbed as i noticed and perceived such a look. i dont know if i really "felt" as opposed to "perceived". I didnt have desire. I didnt want it. but was i attracted? that's a strong word, but im afraid that the brain still felt something "nice", like the overall look was attractive or nice, as an instant positive reaction <brain: "oh that looks nice"> is that normal? am i a ****phile? i wasnt ready. it was sudden as i checked, it took some time to fully process the information. if i knew from the first thing that it was a trigger as usual, in a slow manner instead of sudden noticing, i wouldn't have felt this much uncertainty and these disturbing unclear reactions, i would thought "this looks se&ual because it is exposed skin but im not attracted to it". all this time i thought that when i noticed certain body parts was because it just looked se&ual and because of ocd, after this im starting to think that i find certain looks attractive and i recognised a similarity. maybe, could it be that my brain took some time to fully process things, and because it wasn't ready it wasn't able to relocate in time what was appropriate and not? like piece of informations didn't have enough time to be fully processed so instead of coming into one clear image it was fragmented, and something attractive slipped through as a separated information from the subject...? im very distressed and depressed because of this. the final nail in the coffin for today; i want to kick the bucket.
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- 16w
I was in the car I suddenly noticed someone across the road, and I perceived something that looked attractive and se&ual, like exposed nice legs, and I thought, well let's look, it must be a woman. she wasn't. it was a trigger and i wasnt ready. she was wearing low cut shorts. and the thing is when i noticed how the body was too small i think it still looked someway attractive, my brain perceived that overall look as attractive or se&ual, like it "felt nice" (?) idk. it all happened very fast so i dont know a lot, but I got immediately disturbed as i noticed and perceived such a look. i dont know if i really "felt" as opposed to "perceived". I didnt have desire. I didnt want it. but was i attracted? that's a strong word, but im afraid that the brain still felt something "nice", like the overall look was attractive or nice, as an instant positive reaction <brain: "oh that looks nice"> is that normal? am i a ****phile? i wasnt ready. it was sudden as i checked, it took some time to fully process the information. if i knew from the first thing that it was a trigger as usual, in a slow manner instead of sudden noticing, i wouldn't have felt this much uncertainty and these disturbing unclear reactions, i would thought "this looks se&ual because it is exposed skin but im not attracted to it". all this time i thought that when i noticed certain body parts was because it just looked se&ual and because of ocd, after this im starting to think that i find certain looks attractive and i recognised a similarity. maybe, could it be that my brain took some time to fully process things, and because it wasn't ready it wasn't able to relocate in time what was appropriate and not? like piece of informations didn't have enough time to be fully processed so instead of coming into one clear image it was fragmented, and something attractive slipped through as a separated information from the subject...? im very distressed and depressed because of this. the final nail in the coffin for today; i want to kick the bucket.
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