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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 4y
That's a good guestion. Maybe reading some posts on it which may be triggering. Allowing yourself to experience it fully without avoidance. Looking in the mirror and at yourself often. I used to go through really hard derealization two years ago
Did you do ERP for it? How did you come to accept it?
@JesseSims I didn't know about OCD at all. I thought it was just derealization but it made me feel like I couldn't go on anymore. It passed when I stopped spending all day as the previous one, I pushed myself to communicate with people a lot and also I always feel better with late spring/summer. So slowly I got better thought at first it still was hard. Rn I often experience it but I am no longer as scared, you know?
@JesseSims My current theme bothers me a lot more
@JesseSims I felt really really bad and until this theme it was the worst thing I went through but still the symptoms lessened as for me it turned out to be less severe. Now I'm a lot worse.
@JesseSims Do you have fears around this state or are you just hyper focused on this and suffer from experiencing it?
@Daria Alexandrovna This theme bothers me most because I feel disconnected from myself. I do still continue going so it probably isn’t as bad as I make it. But I spend a lot of time thinking about it which I think slows the process down of me getting through it. I am glad you’re recovering from it and I am sorry that your new theme is harder! I hope you’re getting help with it
@Daria Alexandrovna Yes, I hate how I feel disconnected from myself or that “I’m not real”. I feel as if my body isn’t really mine so then I get focused on it.
@JesseSims I was hyper focused on 'the world isn't real'. this kind of feeling. and also feeling as if I live in my memories and not my actual life here and now. it has driven me absolutely crazy. but as I told many people, and I sadly don't follow this advice myself rn, but if to don't have access to a therapist or medicine - do what's generally good for you. sports (sport games are great at bringing your attention into the present moment), eating healthily, exercising, meeting people and talking to them. getting a good night sleep and being to new places. this makes us redirect our attention to other things for some time so we csn have some room for us to live without anxiety. it helps
@Daria Alexandrovna Yeah I get weird moments where I feel “normal” or “human” like the other day I was stuck at a light and was focused on it and completely forgot
@JesseSims Yes, this is how I felt.
I don’t think derealization is a theme of OCD so I don’t think you can do exposures for it. It’s usually just a symptom of the panic attacks that OCD causes, not part of the OCD itself. So when your brain gets overwhelmed it sort of like disconnects. I get horrible derealization/depersonalization/dissociation. When I have bad OCD episodes and I panic, it feels like everything around me is distant and unfamiliar. My boyfriend doesn’t feel like my boyfriend, my family doesn’t feel like my family, my life doesn’t feel like my life. When I look in the mirror, I don’t feel like I’m looking at myself. I feel like I’m not connecting the person on the inside to the person on the outside. I haven’t found a way to deal with this directly, however, getting better with dealing with my OCD themes has helped me immensely with this feeling. When I don’t panic over intrusive thoughts, I don’t get derealization.
But how can you explain that it caused such suffering for me? I couldn't think about anything besides it. My thoughts were centred around this only. I know that derealization on itself is just a symptom of anxiety. But I couldn't fet my mind off of this, and I want having panic attacks. Just struggling with experiencing that and thinking all of this. There's Existential OCD, which includes 'what if the world isn't real and we all live in a simulation' and similar thoughts. But it's a confirmed subtype....
Idk, it's a hard guestion. I wouldn't say I completely disagree
@Daria Alexandrovna wasn't having *
I don’t really have panic, but I fear that I am not real. My vision gets fuzzy and my brain plays memories and makes me think “was any of this real” and I get anxious thoughts around not feeling real or that I don’t want to be human and they kinda play together. So it’s like derealization is existential
I guess that the core of OCD is being afraid of something or doubting something. So it's possible that she just has it as a theme?
@Daria Alexandrovna Yeah I definitely would say it hasn’t always bothered me. I recently became triggered by it by hearing other people talking about life being a simulation or that they don’t think they’re real
@Daria Alexandrovna It is really difficult. I think existential OCD is a theme in itself. I also struggle with existential OCD and it terrifies me. I haven’t found a great way of dealing with it yet. I’ve started therapy but haven’t started my exposures yet. I hope you find something that works for you ❤️
@Ald21 Good luck to you both with this
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