my father is extremely abusive, he has been since before I was born. to my mom, to my siblings. today we got in each other’s faces because I was defending my mom. I have so much trauma because of him, and I need to mentally grow and heal but I can’t do that while he’s in my life. I don’t have money to move my mom & I out of this house, and I’m afraid of him taking his anger out on us if we ever have a chance to. no one is able to help me. all I want to do is cry because I feel so weak & defeated & like I’m never going to succeed in life or do what I love because he’ll always be there to bring me down. I’m too upset to eat and too scared to sleep because my thoughts keep telling me that something bad will happen. I wish my life was different. I’m so broken.

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

I’m so so sorry you are going through I will pray for you and your mom do you have any family members who can help you? And is your mom willing to leave him if you guys came leave him?

ihaveaheadache

Date posted: 4y

she is. I also don’t have many people to fall back on unfortunately. my dads side of the family lives in their home country & my moms is no longer close with each other; they stopped talking to each other because my aunt (their sister) has severe depression and anxiety & can’t take care of herself so no one wants to help her/be responsible for her, we’re the only ones who do. thank you for your kind words and prayers, I hope there’s a light at the end of this tunnel.

mitz

Date posted: 4y

that sounds really awful, and i really wish there was some advice i could give. i didn’t want to not say anything to this because it just sounds so awful and i’d feel bad just ignoring it. just remember that if you even need to vent that the community is here for you

ihaveaheadache

Date posted: 4y

I understand, it’s not really easy to hear tbh, thank you for that

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

I will recommend to find help in the community like a church and ask for places around your community for woman who are abused mentally or physically by their partner and once you find it move out even if is to a shelter they will help your mom find a job and get on her feet and hopefully one day your father will change and you guys could be together again but this needs to be done in order for him to understand I send you love and hughs and please come back and keep us update how are you doing

artsygirl

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

My father was emotionally abusive which I know isn’t the same but it’s so hard and to deal with ocd on top of that is just hell. Is there anyone you can tell or talk to ? A teacher ? A counselor? How old are you? Is there anyone else you could stay with? Have you told your mom how you feel? Would she ever leave ?

ihaveaheadache

Date posted: 4y

I’m so sorry, it really is so difficult. he’s no longer physically abusive with us because my siblings and I are old enough to defend ourselves and our mom & have fought him back. he, however, is still extremely emotionally and mentally abusive. I’m 20 and attending college online. there aren’t many people I could stay with who would be willing to take my mom in as well. she would leave but she isn’t sure how to & is honestly afraid. she suffers from many health problems along with depression & anxiety & is extremely forgetful of things now. she knows how I feel & I know how she feels, she’s suffered for 30+ years. I just wish she’d have left him early on.

artsygirl

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

Listen to me, you may not be able to fix this situation entirely but it’s very important that you do not let him crush your spirit. I want you to look yourself in the mirror every single day and tell yourself that you are a strong, vibrant young woman who is going to do big things and that you are brave.

artsygirl

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

Lastly, I believe if you went to the police or a women’s shelter that they could help you and your mom.

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