- Username
- beautifully
- Date posted
- 6y ago
I understand and am with you girl. :( that must have been so hard but honestly who cares about her there’s ALWAYS going to be people who don’t understand because they don’t live in your head. Stay strong beauty
To be honest your sister-in-law sounds very inappropriate from the way she acted. This is just my opinion, but I think someone who refers to medication that’s for mental illness as “crazy pills” is not worth trying to explain anything to. Also you have absolutely no duty whatsoever to have to share about your mental illness to anyone unless you are comfortable to do so. She acted very inappropriately in that situation and she’s the one who should be embarrassed, not you. Let her continue on in her blissful ignorance.
When people make incredibly inappropriate comments about mental illness I just remind myself they are ignorant. Not ignorant as in rude, but rather uneducated.
@LaPink got it right, it is her problem, not yours!
@beautifully: I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I hope you know you have nothing to be ashamed of. Everyone has “crosses” they have to bear. Ours’ just happens to be OCD. The fact that you are taking medicine shows that you are a fighter who is taking action to get better. You should be proud of that! There will always be ignorant and unsympathetic people in the world. We can’t control how they act, but we can control how we react to them. Keep your head up, knowing that you didn’t choose to have OCD, be proud of what you are doing to get better, and always remember how special and important you are!!
How horrible! I’m so sorry that she did that. It sounds like she’s very difficult and immature. Next time she does something inappropriate I would say something along the lines of “you must feel really bad about yourself if you are trying to embarrass someone else. Is there something you are dealing with that is making you act so hateful?” Do it out of love and compassion instead of hate. Maybe she will see how terrible she is being.
What’s the most ignorant thing you’ve ever heard someone say about mental illness or OCD? Last week I was in a meeting at school with my teachers. We were discussing how bad my OCD is currently and that we need an action plan for school. I told them that, at the moment, I can’t touch pens, which is obviously an issue in a school environment. It seriously took courage to open up to a room full of practical strangers about my OCD. Do you want to know one of the teachers response? Here it is: “Oh I’m sooo OCD about the pens I use, I have like a million in my office because I change my mind all the time.” Yeah, cool. Thanks for completely invalidating my illness. d a i s y
How do you explain your daily torment to your spouse in a way they'll understand? I have pure o and huge avoidance behaviors. My husband thinks I'm lazy or I feel too much or I overcomplicate everything. He tells me I'm negative and I always think the worst and I'm exhausting. :( I wish more than anything he understood that I procrastinate making dinner bc I picture poisoning my whole family and it scares me so much that I just order take out again. Or I ask him to clean my daughters ear piercings bc I pick at my own skin and if I touch her ears she'll get a horrible infection and get septic and die bc I touched her newly pierced ears (even with the alcohol stuff). Or I lay around playing games on my phone because I need distractions to numb out so I don't think about hurting anyone or cheating on him. How do you say that to the father of your kids without him trying to take them away from you? He doesn't even believe in mental illness. He sees it as weakness. :( Any help would be awesome bc I don't know what to do.
So frustrated with the misunderstanding of OCD today. A friend of mine gave me a bag with gifts for every day until Christmas (like an advent calendar sort of thing). Because of my OCD, I have a hard time handling/touching things that have come into my home from "outside." I thought this would be a great exposure having to open a gift each day this month. I was even considering telling this friend about my OCD, explaining ERP, and how her gifts could help me in my recovery. Well we were just texting one another about what we're baking for the holidays and how we like the combination of sweet and salty. Then she says this: "I'm surprised I like that combo because I have always had OCD tendencies and hated mixing flavors and foods like that." UGH. Just when I think it might be safe to share my "secret." Nope. Not gonna happen. Now I'm just mad. Thanks for letting me vent.
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