Can someone help?? My OCD was trying to freak me out over soemthing recently and I'm spiraling again. So basically this guy started messaging me who I had no interest in. He was just being nice saying we could talk or whatever but I didn't and don't want to. But my OCD hadhas obsessed over that saying that I am lying, asking why constantly I don't want to, making sure I don't like him, etc. Then i got anxious about it again today and looked up on google "should you go out with someone you have no interest in" A lot of things were saying yes and I am really anxious now. I don't like this guy but now my mind is saying I have to date him.

Why did you look that up on google? That’s a compulsion.. you need to learn to do nothing. Absolutely nothing. When you get the anxiety. We all fall off the horse but please give this a try next time around. Sit with the anxiety and do absolutely nothing. Learn to enjoy the anxiety and welcome it.

The best way to undo it is to wait for it to flare up again. I would sit next to your phone and do nothing and accept uncertainty. Ocd mindful give no reassurance so he can give you tips on how to fully crush your ocd rituals. Once I fully stopped ritualizing I got my life back.

So first off I don’t think you should feel bad for googling it. While I agree it wasn’t the safest or most caring decision FOR yourself, but we know WHY you did it of course, and that is okay. I think we all just want answers and reassurance I think we need to find safe spaces for that. It sounds like your intrusive thought is rooted in a type of guilt already, like a shame spiral. So this has probably been a reinforced pattern for a while, I totally get that/similar to some of my intrusive thoughts. It’s been helpful for me to focus on establishing boundaries for my brain. You don’t want to lie. Because that’s not really who you are. That is a separate “guilt” thought that you’re not pleasing someone else. But we know you are such an honest person because you feel guilty just at the thought of lying! Tbh talking it out like that even to myself if I don’t have a safe friend available, can really be helpful. The feelings are still presents but my brain is then able to accept the facts that are present and then my body can sit and do nothing.