StarriEyed
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- 4y
whatadooowhatadooo
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- 4y
Don't fight. Give him a day to cool off. Ignore answering say you love him and that you'll talk him tomorrow because you don't want to hurt eachother more with words you don't mean
whatadooowhatadooo
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People need to cool off itll do wonders for relationship.
StarriEyedStarriEyed
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- 4y
He said he'll think about it
whatadooowhatadooo
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- 4y
How long have u guys been together?
StarriEyedStarriEyed
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- 4y
1 year
anabanana42anabanana42
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- 4y
How old are you? If you dont mind me asking
StarriEyedStarriEyed
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- 4y
19
anabanana42anabanana42
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The boy you are with at 19 is not going to be the one...
anabanana42anabanana42
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You have SO much time to figure yourself out and decide what you want.
anabanana42anabanana42
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Also if this is triggering for your anxiety that he's threatened breaking up and left you to distress over this, is that really the kind of person you should be with anyway?
StarriEyedStarriEyed
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- 4y
He didnt threaten to break up he just said that he wanted to think about it and we haven't broken up we talked about it and he said that sometimes my ocd gets a bit much for him and is it okay if he sometimes has more time alone and I said yeah of course
anabanana42anabanana42
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- 4y
@StarriEyed That sounds reasonable. It can be difficult being with someone who suffers from a mental health condition. He needs to protect his boundaries and this is not a reflection of how he feels towards you. That said, you partner should be there to support you. If he is impatient with you because of your ocd, or makes you feel bad or unsupported, you need to consider if he is the best thing for you
StarriEyedStarriEyed
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- 4y
@anabanana42 He is very understanding and supportive I can understand when it becomes a bit much like when i start reassurance seeking or looping it kind of makes us both worse since there's nothing he can do to stop me from looping and he can't reassure me since you know ocd and all. He told me that he kind of was crying earlier since he really didn't want to break up but he wanted to think about what was for the best but he said he's really glad we didn't break up. My ocd has become kind of severe lately like sometimes all I will talk about is my worries or ask if he's mad at me or just start crying we haven't really had a normal conversation in a while
Anonymous2020Anonymous2020
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This might not be your case cos you're different people, but here's my experience: I started dating my bf just before I turned 16. We've just celebrated our 8 year anniversary and plan to move in together in the next couple of years. We went through some tough times with depression on both ends and eventually anxiety and OCD for me. Several arguments led to the breakup talk, but ONLY because sometimes it got too much for one another. We learned we want to be together but it takes work, especially when life throws you a mental struggle. My depression was caused by the contraceptive pill and was resolved by coming off it. His depression led to him breaking up with me whilst he got some help. 2 months later when he found it more manageable (this was in university now after struggle of exams had gone too) we started again slowly and built back to the happy relationship we had before his depression got really bad. A couple years later I got OCD. He's been really supportive and a few weeks ago we had an argument about it. He said it got too much for him as he couldn't truly understand as he wasn't experiencing it (fair enough). What we learnt together is that communication is key. Both ways. You tell him when OCD is playing up, but give him a choice if he wants to know more. This allows him to decide but at the same time allows you to tell him what's happening to you. Make sure you check in with him and his mental health (even if he's a "normal, healthy" person). There will be times you'll seek reassurance from him and he should only give it if you are in the absolute worst way that you're going to be ill from it. Reassurance fuels OCD. And when it does flare up, just remind him and reassure HIM that it's OCD, not you, throw in a little bit of research to help him understand, but always always always give him the choice of how much he wants to know. Otherwise it can become unbearable. I personally disagree with comments like the person you're with in teenage years won't be the one. Like I said I've been with my bf 8 years, went through the mental torture that is high school and depression, we are both doing so well (except the OCD) and couldn't be happier together. It took growing up together and working as a team. At the end of the day, love isn't easy like the movies cos life gets involved. Getting through it and supporting each other and helping each other grow as people - that's where the love comes in.
Anonymous2020Anonymous2020
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- 4y
It just depends on you both as individuals if you're both determined to work hard for the other person. If you're not going to, then they aren't aren't person you're meant to be with because there will be other things along with OCD that life will throw at you and you will find the person who you will support and who will support you through these things (if you haven't found them already).
KaitlynKaitlyn
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- 4y
He’s stupid to want to break up with such a queen ♥️ Give him a little time. He’ll cool off and even though it would be tough if you split you can always get through it! We’re here for you
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