- Username
- danielle.lf
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Hi. this is my first post so take it with a grain of salt. It sounds like he is for real. It souonds more like you are going through what most of us with ocd go through-agonizing fear of the unknown. The rest is your ocd making you read between the lines for things that may or may not be there. I go through it all of the time. Try your best to take what he's saying about loving you at face value & continue to remind him that you are going to keep working on your end of the relationship. And don't just let him kiss you & say "I love you." do it first sometimes! Us Men like that too even if we don't admit it so easily. Good luck.
I talked everything out with him But thank you all I think a thought too far and the worst
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I definitely agree with @mrbrimstone (lol at that name btw) make sure u show him affection back. My last relationship she barely showed me affection like I did to her and it got stagnant. I really hope you guys work it out. I feel like u will we alll hit rough patches. But I don’t want to give u too much reassurance. You also have to be okay with the possibility you might not stay together. I’m not saying dwell on it , I’m just saying believe in yourself that you can survive if u do break up. The sun will still shine and u will make it. But just acknowledge that possibility don’t linger on it. Enjoy ur bf, communicate and listen. You will be fine.
Now that I talked to him and I guess that everything is fine, I start having rocd thoughts again that I was only afraid of loosing him in front of others But in the other way I’m still afraid that he might liebte me about loving me He said that he doesn’t or very less when we fight But when we casually spend time together he is happy and has feelings I am confused...
Lie to me*
And that it scared him that he didn’t love me during fights And that’s why he said that he wasn’t sure about loving me That’s at least what he told me ....
RedMax. Glad you like the moniker...lol I am a Satanist (for real). I grew up in a very fundamentalist xtian home & experienced religious trauma that figures quite strongly into my ocd. So I've discovered myself in the other side. Not being preachy, just elaborating...Perhaps too much. lol
Im curious what’s a fundamentalist xtian home
Very strict rules regarding almost everything. Mandatory prayer & church where a preacher screams until he is red in the face at you about how you are going to hell. Etcetera
can someone help me with my post from 6 hours ago please. just please.
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