My boyfriend keeps commenting on my weight and suggesting I should go on a diet. I'm 5'5 and weight 135 pounds... I'm also an athlete. This is making me have serious body dismorphia and I'm obsessing on whether or not I'm fat and need to lose weight or he is just off the rails 🤔 It's so annoying.

I don't know if this is ROCD, pure OCD, or what, but it feels like he's reeeally critical of me, and I'm already terribly critical of myself, so it makes it so hard to push through my negative internal voice. But I tried telling her my OCD obsessions exist outside of him. I would hate to break up with him just to find myself just as depressed. We also just moved in together, and it feels impossible to leave without repercussions. I feel like it helps to make pros and cons: Pros: - Cooks for us all the time - Takes the reins on house/rent/utility setup (despite me asking to help) - Takes us on fun surprise/spontanous adventures, never a dull moment - Likes the same shows/movies/activities - We dress up and go to events together - Strong sexual chemistry Cons: - Feels he's taking care of everything despite *insisting* on it - Very much a know-it-all, which leads to a lot of criticism of me (constant sighs, intense reactions to small mistakes, no room for me to be human) - Expresses that I'm not his type physically, but I should be glad he still wants to be with me, and if I just go to the gym, he'll want to have sex with me more - Has misophonia, which makes him averse to any mouth sounds, so he gets mad at me when I'm eating and wants me to leave the room, and can be a jerk about it - Tends to think the worst of my actions, and will chalk things up to the "type of person" I am, which often takes me by surprise and makes me feel misunderstood - My mom/friends don't like him at all, but our mutual friends obviously love him, yet they see his flaws, too Anyway, it's eating at me, and I'm afraid of what the future might bring, and I just wish I could feel confident again so that I stand up for myself more. If those bad things were gone, he'd be amazing and perfect, but they weigh on me soooo much

Okay so there’s been a few times where my boyfriend has hit me lightly across the face always in a jokey way and never hard. However I cry every time because my ocd says it’s abuse (you know what ocd is like 🙄) I told him not to do it cause I don’t like it. However I jokely hit myself a lot and pull my hair out pick my nails etc and he hates it because to him “I’m self harming myself” so he hits me across the face (not hard just a tap) as he says to him it’s okay in that context cause it’s to stop me from doing it to myself and he says “it’s like telling a kid to not have chocolate but having it yourself. Today, He pushed my head away jokely cause I said a joke to him about him and I said I told you not to and he said “it wasn’t your face” I asked him why he does my face and he says he does ir on purpose as he thinks the context he does it in is okay as he does it cause im hitting myself and he said “it’s like telling a kid not to eat chocolate but then eating it yourself” he means cause I tell him not to hit me but I hit myself or pull my hair out and he says it’s no difference… He says when I bring it up it’s like I’m always picking a fight Is this ok? He’s a lovely boyfriend and has never ever gave me any other problems.. it’s just this one thing. It’s never hard it’s just a tap. Should I worry or is my ocd interfering with this.

Hi all, I’m F(20) and I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend M(20) for 10 months now. Lately it feels like I’ve been getting triggered at the tiniest thing. My relationship OCD is centered around the idea that my bf will leave me, that suddenly his feelings will change and he’ll never look back. Inherently I know this is irrational and I know he loves me very much (as he tells me repeatedly when I compulsively ask for reassurance). I just can’t make my brain stop. I just feel so unsecured. He will mention that one of his friends drove an hour to see him for only 30 minutes. I will then spiral that I am not possibly doing enough and it’s because he’s secretly done with me and he’s longing for a reason to leave and go be with this friend instead. See? Truly irrational. But I cannot stop it. Any tips at all? Maybe I’m at least not alone in this. I often feel literally insane:(