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Set a boundary. It’s inappropriate for him to be commenting on your weight at all.
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Thank you, I've tried telling him to not comment on my weight but he still does it. At first I was ignoring it but now I'm starting to believe it.
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This sounds like it's a red flag. Emotional abuse comes to mind. You're weight is perfect for your height. Plus, you can be whatever weight you choose. If he doesn't approve of you, he can kick rocks. You don't deserve to take that, that's awful
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Check out "signs of emotional abuse", and set boundaries. You're old enough, he's not your parent, you do as you choose, and vise versa.
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@010010 Thank you for that! ... I know it's definitely a red flag. I just kept ignoring it, which isn't the best thing to do. I tried telling him not to comment on my weight but he still does. Now it's started to get to me.
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@Janeths Definitely have a talk with him. Someone who does that stuff is controlling and abusive. Definitely take a day to think about it. Don’t want you getting hurt
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Listen my dad was abusive to my mom in that sense. She ended up passing out in the gym because of working out and on weight loss pills. She was 4'11 and 100 pounds. She was never able to be skinny enough for him . Now she's a 50 yr old woman 140 pounds fat and happy and doesn't give a fuck about his opinion now because now she sees there was never anything she could've done to be his ideal and just will be what she wants to be 🤷♀️ You can never change a man got it? They can only change when they want to . Maybe you can start telling /him/ that he's/fat/ and should work out. See how he reacts when you turn this around on him instead.
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Sounds like the only weight you need to lose is him! Sorry not sorry 😒
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Someone should love you & be attracted to you no matter the weight. I'm 5'5 started dating my boyfriend while i was 110, then I got on my medication and am at 145 and have stretch marks now because of the rapid growth. He's gained weight too because of quarantine. Now we just talk about working out as something we should do together to be healthy, never as something to shame eachother in to.
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Yeah for real , your ideal for your height , this can definitely be a red flag . Clearly he lacks appreciation for you as you , he has an image in mind and is this is an attempt at moulding you into that image . He will deny this , or course , because it is subliminal and is very likely unaware of what he's doing . You can try to discuss it with him . Hopefully it works out. But don't allow this to continue , you are perfect as you , no matter what .
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Sounds abusive. Truly.
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