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yes you should have a baby! your fears shouldn’t hold you back. ocd is such a scary thing and brings scary thoughts to your brain. my advice is to sit in the uncertainty, i know it’s tough but the more you sit in the discomfort of your thoughts and live your life they way you want to the more your thoughts won’t bother you. you got this! wishing you the best.
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all of these people who has said something on this post are right. i think having baby is a huge step in life and you definitely want to enjoy it. my advice is to reach out to an ocd specialist about this. they could really help you and you could talk through things and figure out ways so you won’t feel like this when you have your baby. ERP is really good too. you could also talk to someone through this app! i heard really good things about therapy on here. wishing you the best!
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Thank you xx yeah am popping on zoom tonight, very nervous though lol
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@MissLovely yay! good for you. everything is going to go great good luck!
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I know my partner will look after the baby on days where I haven't slept or I don't feel mentally good at all, but I know I'll feel very drained but I know having one would mean so much to him and I know I'd do my best, just some people think I wouldn't cope, but thing is it wouldn't be just me raising the kid
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Maybe you could both have a talk to a psychologist about this topic. My partner and I did and I ultimately decided I would not let OCD take motherhood away from me when I wanted it so badly. I felt I had already lost so much to ocd not this as well. We are now 21 weeks pregnant, on medication and doing much better :)
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Oh wow, well done ! That's great news xx
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A child is a big decision def go over this with a therapist and trusted family!
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I suffered harm ocd when my elder boy was borned. I did'nt even know it was ocd then, went through a tough period, no medication because was not diagnosed. I survived and now my son is already 25 years old. With medication & therapy, you can make it through motherhood!!
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I'd have to come off of duluxetine when pregnant, and it helps me, it hasn't cured me but it helps
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I had really bad hocd when my daughter turned like 4 months. I even checked myself in the ER because i thought i was loosing it. Even tho your son is 25. Did tou have any flare ups? My daughter is 11 and this would be my 3rd flare up.
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Hi Anonymously, yes. I have many flare-ups over the years but it morph to other themes. I have obsessed about health & cancer for a long time. As ocd is chronic & there is no cure, we need to learn how to manage it through medication & behavioural therapy for the rest of our lives.
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I went into a bad place when I was a child when my little sister was born, my OCD was so bad and I wasn't even in the same room as her. My worry is it will go that shit but even shitter because the baby will be in the room, and I may give in to my avoidance OCD and have to leave the room to sleep
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i’m sorry to hear that. my advice is to talk to your partner and tell them your worries and come up with a plan. you could aways talk to an ocd specialist if you are able to they could help a lot and give you some tools to help.
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@sb12367 I've told my partner everything and he thinks he'd manage when ever I can't but because I was like a second parent to my younger sibling, I know how hard being a parent is and I know on some days, when I need a few hours to myself, he'll want me to help and I guess I'm wondering if it's in my best interest to have a kid, I want one and my partner really really wants one, I know I'll be okay when the kid is like 5 up, it's the early years that makes me lose sleep. But I'm getting older now, we now have our own place, it's now or never really, because if I say no now, I know ocd won't leave my life as I've had it forever
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