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- 4y
Death anxiety is really rough, because it feels inescapable. We think the only way our fear can be ‘settled’, is if we experience death. That’s not the case. Mahatma Ghandi said, ‘each night when I go to sleep, I die. And the next morning when I wake up I am reborn’. Sounds a little deep, but it’s really simple. you’re not as disconnected from death as you’d imagine. I understand that your fear surrounds the idea of heaven, being dead but conscious and being away from loved ones, I was the same! Think of it this way, you were dead billions, and billions of years before you were born, and you didn’t suffer at all during that time. Death is hard, but your love for your family and your connections with them are more than death. As sappy as it sounds, you’ll always be in each others hearts regardless of what comes between that. All of your fears are based on this idea of consciousness after death, which is scientifically impossible - but I understand what you’re saying. When you go to sleep, and you’re unconscious, it’s irrelevant to you whether you’re in a box or a field - as long as you’re in that state. Think of death as sleep if that helps. This was long, but I’ve been where you are. Sending my best wishes🤍
^^ we actually don’t know, scientifically, if there’s other realms or if consciousness continues after physical death, etc. There’s SO MUCH we don’t know. We know like 0.1% of everything possibly knowable. There’s string theory, Near Death Experiances (NDEs) studied by Dr. Sam Parnia, and even Stephen Hawking “suggesting ‘God’ could exist”.. There’s studies of mediums and of quantum mechanics. We know nothing 🤍✨
No, I agree!! When I say consciousness I mean consciousness in a physical sense - like electrical activity in the brain. I love contemplating about life after death, and I personally believe in reincarnation lol. I agree we know nothing, I’m not disputing that, but this person has a fear of how claustrophobic it would be to be in a coffin, and she’s referring to the possibility of being conscious in the way that we understand it, as humans who are alive. I’m not debating the idea that our consciousness transcends into something else!
Mine is Cancer and death. I feel if i could overcome fear of death then if i ever get cancer( that was hard to write btw) then i wouldn't freak out.
*****TW****** Yesssss I have a total fear that there’s no afterlife!!! My biggest core fear, EASILY!! I’ve rationalized that my other fears are okay as long as there’s an afterlife at the end of this... more to go on. But maybe there isn’t!! My family runs a graveyard (ironic) and my current exposure is to listen to nihilist quotes while walking through and imagining all the decaying bodies.. 2 times a day at least. And I listen to the quotes more. Sending soooo much love and good luck 🤍🤍✨✨✨
If you ever want to do an exposure together you can find me on IG at emidrew_xo 🤗
BTW you basically described me.
Have you done erp? Any good exposures ?
@artsygirl I am doing ERP now with my NOCD therapist. Just started, only exposure I've done so far is write a script about getting a terminal cancer diagnosis and reading the word over and over.
My last and almost life long theme/sub-theme largely subsided recently and my ocd felt like it wasn’t even an issue. Then I went on winter break from uni and being alone made my mind come up with a whole new topic to obsess over. TLDR on my fears, my advisor wouldn’t email me back for a while about signing up for classes so my mind started to worry “what if he doesn’t in time and you can’t enroll this semester and you lose this whole life you just built and all these new friends” So when that issue was resolved my mind found other scarier ways I could be uprooted from my current life and friends that I’ve grown so attached to. Then my mind remembered back when I was struggling with false memories and scrupulosity and I essentially made a post on a forum 2 and a half years ago saying I did something or was convinced I did something that I never actually did. Now I’ve been spiraling about someone finding it reporting me and I either get seen as a horrible person or arrested or something over something I never actually did but “admitted” to out of fear of going to hell. My mind won’t let it go and keeps finding new reasons for it to be “valid” “logical” or even inevitable. I feel like it’s just hanging over my head and I can never rest easy. Especially when I try to focus on my daily tasks or plan for the future I get this horrible flair up of “why plan for the future when this could come back in that future and you get uprooted from all of it” my mind won’t rest without certainty being uprooted won’t happen but certainty doesn’t exist, at least not with ocd. This sucks and I miss being care free.
Hi everyone, I haven’t posted in a while—about 6 months—but I’m really struggling and need some help or advice. I thought I had healed from all of this, or at least I was doing so much better. I have never felt this before but it feels like I’m slipping back into something I can’t control. Right now, it feels like I’m stuck in a bad reality. It’s like I’m trapped with my dad in one reality, and I’m trying to get back to the other where I’m with my family, but I can’t. It’s so hard to explain, but everything around me feels unreal, and my mind keeps telling me I’m stuck. It feels so real, and I don’t know how to get out of it. It’s like I’ve been transported to another world, and I can’t break free. nd now I’m scared I’ll never come back to the “good” reality I had before. and I genuinely believe this. I’ve been struggling with these thoughts about spiritual realms, the devil, and spiritual warfare. My dad has always talked about these things, and he’s gone through psychosis before. He’s also had a history of doing a lot of drugs, and now I’m terrified that I might end up like him. I fear that I’m somehow becoming like him, trapped in that same mental space he’s been in. He talks about spiritual stuff that scares me, and I can’t shake the thought that I might be losing myself the same way he did. I know this might sound weird, but I feel like I’m getting closer to that line, and I don’t know how to stop it. I keep feeling like I’ll never come back to the way things were, like I’ll always be stuck in this distorted reality. I’m afraid of losing myself, especially in my faith. I believe in God, but my thoughts and fears about all of this are making it hard to feel connected to Him. I feel so distant from God right now, and it’s hard to see how this can change. Has anyone else experienced something like this—feeling like you’re trapped between realities, afraid of becoming someone you don’t want to be, or struggling with fears like this? How did you cope? I just need some hope that I can get through this and come back to a better place. I’m scared, and I feel like I can’t escape this. Any advice would really mean a lot right now.
im scared. I keep compulsively praying for bad things or death on the people I love. I don’t understand why. It doesn’t make anything better. I’m scared that these prayers count. I seal them as I do with most of my prayers in Jesus name and with a double amen. I’m scared God will want to teach me a lesson and make something come true. I’m scared I mean these prayers, I’m petrified. If something happened, I wouldn’t be able to live with myself :( I don’t know where to go from here
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