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I am so unhappy with my focus either. At work I just don’t feel like doing much, bare minimum. And then it bothers me somewhat, and I seek re-assurance or re-assure myself. Once I am in good mood and not obsessed, my executive function gets back. And then lost again.
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Have you ever found anything that helps (aside from the intrusive thoughts subsiding)? I had a real bad flare up a couple years ago that was pretty debilitating but even after getting it under control I feel like my ability to guide my focus is almost non-existent. Which is a real problem because my job requires a significant amount of focus and self guided work. This has all been made worse by the pandemic since I have been working from home and have very little accountability. All of this really affects my self-esteem
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@ClearMind20 I have not. I do less and have been getting away with this so far, although it bothers me. I very much want to restore my focus.
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@ClearMind20 I feel like taking a break or leave, and feel that sometime off work would help. But who knows. I have been working at my job for 16 years and I lost interest, but I still need to earn money. So I am not sure from where this lack of focus comes - from ocd or from lack of interest, or both
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I also once thought that I have adhd, and also dropped that idea
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I realized that I do see some solutions and I work towards them. I use Headspace app now, and doing 10 days productivity course there. This app helps to train and retrain mind to direct focus, not to chase thoughts, let go of thoughts, to accept, not resist, relax, etc. I started using it two months ago and now I am more aware of what I am thinking about, I note when I do rumination or mental reviewing and let go of that, at least trying, and succeed in 50 percent or so so far. I have been doing guided meditations daily from Headspace for two months. I am hopeful that with regular use my mind will get trained in those things. I love being productive, but ocd often takes over fooling with a sense of urgency that I need to figure out something that distracts me from what I want to do. In general, I juggle many things- family, job, kids, marriage, friends, personal finance, self care and fitness, house, investments, but I know that I waiste too much time and focus on what ocd calls for. I want to change that and it is the goal of all my inner workings now, including ERP therapy that I believe is making things worse before it gets better.
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First-time poster in the community here, but I had something really eating at me. I’m not sure if it’s an OCD symptom or not, but I feel like my brain has developed a coping mechanism over the years, and honestly, it bothers me daily that I can’t control it. I’ve been seen as a pretty smart person by my peers, and I can be smart, but I keep getting a reaction to thinking too much. I’ve noticed that on most days, I simply can’t think. I’m not talking like “I have so many solutions to this question”, but instead, it’s more like “I don’t know the answer, and if I try to find it I’ll be wrong” or simply I can’t recall the information. However, I’ll get these waves of what I call “kickstarts” where, all of a sudden, everything is so clear to me. I feel everything that I’m numb to, and at first, I’m glad to finally feel capable. But later that day, often several days that week, the fog is lifted and all of the terrible thoughts start to flow in. I’m in a loving relationship, and she’s given me no reason to second guess, but thoughts of her finding someone better than me always show, and thoughts that I’m not good enough, with thoughts that I can’t get to shut up long enough for me to do anything even remotely productive. I believe that paired with my depressive habits, OCD has really kicked my a** for my entire life, and the mental fog that has developed as a coping mechanism bothers me just as much, even causing obsessive thoughts that I am a poser, or a fraud, of a person. Thank you guys, if you read this long-winded rant, I just had to tell someone that it was bothering me before it exploded.
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I get so stuck when making decisions. I guess it’s called executive functioning and before my OCD diagnosis I just thought I was a perfectionist and needed to make sure everything would be perfect before making the decision. Turns out it’s part of OCD?
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Hi Everyone - has anyone else had problems with executive functioning - forgetting things, multitasking, attention, not following directions closely, etc. ? If so, what do you do to help? I brought this up to my therapist and she mentioned that I wouldn’t need a therapist Or specialist/coach to work on it - as it would be skills we know to do (take notes, put on reminders, etc). However, I’ve been struggling with OCD for years and none of these “tips” have helped enough. I have had trouble multitasking/ remembering details/forgetting things with jobs and had to quit. It even applies when I am at home - one thing goes in one ear and out the other. I also do not have or been diagnosed with ADHD or any other disorders (just depression from OCD). Does anybody have suggestions? Is it just to manage my OCD better and these things will get better with that? I don’t recall how I was when my OCD was “good” or in better shape (Up until age 18) to gauge this as I didn’t have a job or other life responsibilities. Only thing I can think of is maybe I am so caught up in my head that is causing these issues, aka the severe OCD. Thanks!
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