PinkLotus
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confront them about it first, and explain how their behavior is negatively affecting your relationship. cofrontation is always key. i think a good friendship shouldnt go to waste over something that can possibly be fixed. if you arent seeing any changes in their behavior, then it’d be a good call to cut them off
PinkLotusPinkLotus
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Unfortunately I have spoken to her about this already and she just refuses to change, above all I opened up to her about my ocd and she invalidates it all the time. It does suck to lose their friendship tho
ss
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@PinkLotus really sorry to hear that she’s invalidated your ocd - that’s a pretty big red flag
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I would also confront them about it before cutting her off, she might genuinely not realize how negative she’s being or that it’s bothering anyone. After that if she isn’t willing to work on it maybe cut her off :)
PinkLotusPinkLotus
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Thank you for the advice!!
JustmesadlyJustmesadly
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I agree with others. Please confront her bc she might be struggling or not realize it. Last year was hell for me bc of a shit job and getting fired , and getting dumped, finding out I have ocd etc so it was pretty normal to be negative and instead of my best friend explaining the issue and talking with me , i was just left in the dust with no explanation. I’ve even had a friend say I love you but my mind can’t handle your negativity on top of mine so I have to step away from our friendship for a bit
PinkLotusPinkLotus
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Thank you so much for the advice I wish I could say this isn’t the first time I’ve confronted her but it truly is. :(
PinkLotusPinkLotus
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@PinkLotus Isn’t fair the way she treats me*
JustmesadlyJustmesadly
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@PinkLotus Some people just aren’t understanding or great friends
Christian Christian
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I feel ya, I had a friend who was like that. Tbh I just cut em off, just like that no warning. It was hard at first I felt like I was taking it too far , but I feel p good now tbh . It’s hard to “break up “ with a toxic friend but a good way to start is to just block them or stop hitting them up
PinkLotusPinkLotus
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Yeah you’re right it can be so draining to keep this friend around so it might be best to cut ties
ss
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yeah i understand too, i remember that happened to me last year, someone from my class kept messaging me how depressed they were and i tried as much as i could to help them, but they didn’t really message anything other than that and they didn’t really befriend me? i felt odd too trying to establish boundaries
PinkLotusPinkLotus
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Yup that’s exactly how I feel I can’t set boundaries bc it’s like well we only talk about her anyways?
ss
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@PinkLotus it’s hard man, and i’d get told off my by family for not taking the time effort to really be for her as a friend, but the friendship was so one-sided, i was there for her mentally, emotionally and academically - it was at that time where i decided to message her less regularly, cause it was damaging my mental health too
PinkLotusPinkLotus
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@s Right and it isn’t fair that you’re made to feel that way by your family, you shouldn’t be obligated to keep people around that drain you just because going have history. Hope you’re doing better now
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