jorgem1AO
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- 4y
pai 😽pai 😽
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- 4y
what? just because a woman rejects you doesn’t mean she’s shallow. this is a disgusting mindset to have. no means no. women don’t owe you a relationship. the reason they don’t like you is probably this entitled behaviour instead.
jorgem1AOjorgem1AO
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- 4y
Huh? I dont think you understood me. i’m saying almost ALL women reject me, leading me to believe women in recent years have really high standards for men, making them shallow. I never said i was owed anything
pai 😽pai 😽
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- 4y
@jorgem1AO what’s wrong with women having high standards?? everyone should have high standards that doesn’t make them shallow. if you can’t reach their standards that’s too bad. not their fault.
pai 😽pai 😽
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- 4y
@jorgem1AO i understood you completely and you are misogynistic. that’s what you need to work on. stop the “i’m a nice guy why don’t women want me” self pity. and work on your sexism!
pai 😽pai 😽
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- 4y
please check your heart this is just a weird and misogynistic mindset to have! women are their own people! with feelings and opinions. and if they don’t want to date you, that doesn’t make them “shallow” it just simply means they don’t want to date you! this kind of “i’m a nice guy women should want me they are so shallow” self pity is yucky!
jorgem1AOjorgem1AO
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- 4y
Whats wrong with women having high standards? Ok, i’ll tell you. If the average women doesnt want to date the average man because her standards are too high and she feels she deserves better, then you have a lot of lonely average men who feel sexually frustrated. The only alternative for men in that situation is porn and its so sad.
pai 😽pai 😽
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- 4y
@jorgem1AO TOO BAD!! it’s not the women’s fault!
pai 😽pai 😽
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- 4y
@jorgem1AO that’s just too bad! stop being entitled to women’s validation. no woman wants to date someone with your mindset.
pai 😽pai 😽
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- 4y
@jorgem1AO ofc she deserves better. women aren’t property they can date whoever they want! if they don’t want you that’s too bad move on! this is not ocd you are just an entitled sexist, insecure man.
jorgem1AOjorgem1AO
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- 4y
@pai 😽 Anyways, i dont think we’ll reach an agreement, we seem to be polar opposite. I wish you the best
pai 😽pai 😽
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- 4y
@jorgem1AO it’s not women’s fault you don’t meet their standards. that’s just too bad. maybe find someone who likes you and start viewing women as people with feelings who are able to date and reject whoever they want
Blah blahBlah blah
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- 4y
@jorgem1AO Lot of alternatives other than porn. Do something creative
Anonymous Anonymous
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- 4y
How many women have you been asking out and is there a possibility this is the problem? It seems like you’re asking out a lot based on your replies. And that tends to be a red flag most women including myself reject men because of.
pai 😽pai 😽
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- 4y
the comment he made was extremely disgusting and offensive. i am sick of men feeling like women are “shallow” just because we don’t want to date them. news flash! consent is a thing and women don’t have to date you just cuz you’re a “nice guy” who just feels bad for himself. i cannot even believe it. him blaming women and calling us “shallow” such a disgusting viewpoint 🤢
pai 😽pai 😽
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- 4y
yes i agree with u !
jorgem1AOjorgem1AO
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- 4y
Well i might ask one or two women a day, and i great them and just ask if they’d like to give me their number. Its not like they know how many other girls i ask out anyways, i like to be discreet
Anonymous Anonymous
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- 4y
@jorgem1AO Yeah I’m sorry but that definitely seems to be the issue. 1 to 2 a day is a lot and is quite impersonal and just because they may not know how many girls you’re asking out they can probably tell that they’re not as important to you as they should be. Also they may not feel safe giving their number to a stranger.
jorgem1AOjorgem1AO
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- 4y
@Anonymous Ok, thank you for your constructive comment. Maybe it is the issue, but as a man who is trying to replace pornography with real women, its all i can do, and can you please ellaborate more on the part you said about ‘they’re not as important to me?’
Anonymous Anonymous
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- 4y
@jorgem1AO Women would rather you show real interest in them personally instead of just getting the vibe you’re saying the exact same thing to 10 other girls.
jorgem1AOjorgem1AO
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- 4y
@Anonymous Show them real interest how?
Blah blahBlah blah
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- 4y
You can’t replace pornography with real women or vice versa. You need to be ok with neither.
jorgem1AOjorgem1AO
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- 4y
im not entitled to anything. Im simply making an observation and asking other people’s opinion. also it is ocd because my mind obssesses over what exactly is wrong with me. Dont be so quick to label people, and maybe put yourself in their shoes
pai 😽pai 😽
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- 4y
why would i put myself in the shoes of a sexist, no thanks! i’m very empathic for people with ocd as i suffer with it myself, but there’s a difference between people having ocd and worrying that they’re bad people, and them just being bad people. there’s a big difference im not saying you don’t have ocd, maybe your ocd is obsessing over what’s wrong with you or whatever but you being misogynistic and sexist is clearly %100 you since you genuinely believe the things you’re saying. i’m not saying you’re bad person but you definitely need to work on some things. women aren’t shallow just because you are inadequate to their standards. how about you focus on trying to better yourself and be the person who is even higher than their standards rather than blaming them just because you can’t reach it. also don’t blame men’s porn addictions on women rejecting them. they choose to watch porn, no one forces them. (i’m not shaming people for going through addictions but it’s not women’s fault).
jorgem1AOjorgem1AO
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- 4y
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- Date posted
- 23w
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