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One of the best things I've ever heard (that is backed by science) about this topic is that often, the brain and the body don't match up when it comes to arousal. So you could have thoughts that don't make sense with what is happening in your body, and your body can react is random ways to thoughts or other stimuli. Totally normal. You've got this. You are not your thoughts, they don't get to define you.
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I’m just confused on whether I had an orgasm to my thoughts or if I had an orgasm to what I was looking at. Sorry this is a bit tmi btw. But I feel so disgusted with myself
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@Jbgys543 Because I’m also scared that the intrusive thoughts made the orgasm happen faster :/
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@Jbgys543 This is CLASSIC OCD. Don’t ruminate on this. Whether or not you feel you “get an answer” it will just happen again!
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@Jon w/ OCD Thank you! :)
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The treatment for this type of OCD is literally let the thoughts come and go during sex/ masturbation or bring on the thoughts on intentionally. Whether they cause an orgasm or not is irrelevant. Orgasms mean nothing and sometimes groinal responses can create orgasms, which isn’t even arousal. OCD twists things and loves to give us groinal sensations we don’t want because it’s something to endlessly obsess over. It does not matter in the slightest what thoughts enter your mind during sex/masturbation or whether they lead to an orgasm. The thoughts and bodily sensations are out of your control.
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Ohhhhh thank you! :)
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This happens to me to with my wife. I’ll have SOOCD random thoughts come into my mind right around orgasm and it makes me really uncomfortable. I have talked to a lot of people who don’t have OCD and they also say sometimes they have random thoughts during sex too. My wife even once asked me what we should have for dinner during sex 😂🤦🏼♂️
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Ohhhhh, thank you! :)
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I feel like a really terrible person right now, I keep replaying this, and no matter what I can’t remember what happened, it’s like my brain is purposely not letting me think about it. Without wasting any more time, I’ll get into it. Basically, I was at Walmart, and looking at cards with My Dad, I saw anime ones, took pictures of them for my sister, even ones that were anime kids, because I did my best to ignore it, so I looked at a Hunter x Hunter card, I stared at the black haired kid, being all like “ I’m glad I’m not having any thoughts about this, I’m glad I’m having normal thoughts and not thinking anything” I felt happy, then as soon as I looked at killua (white haired kid), everything collapsed. I don’t know what happened, my brain won’t let me remember. But I’ll give bits and pieces. I think that I had false attraction, and something in my head, said “oh, I wouldn’t mind being attracted.” “He is attractive, and I’m attracted to him.” “I remember a girl thinking he is attractive and he is” “ It’s not wrong to be attracted” “ I don’t care about his age” .. something along the lines of that, and now I’m panicking super hard, because I’m worried if I said those things, I feel like I ruined my life that I’m a pe//do and deserve nothing, idk what to do, I feel terrible… I remember when I was having the intrusive thoughts, I was panicking and was worrying, but it kept playing out, and I kept hearing things talk, it was drawn out too long, that now I feel convinced that I was saying those things, I tested it too, and I can confirm that I didn’t say that, but why am I still not convinced? I know I wouldn’t say those things, I was hoping the complete opposite would happen. My brain kept making me feel like it wasn’t wrong and it was okay. Maybe that’s why I’m so convinced I did that. I’m just spiraling super bad right now, I don’t know what to do or what to think, I don’t know if I said that or not… even if I did test it, I genuinely just feel like I said it, and I wanted it, because I still feel uncertain, I still feel like I said it, part of me just wants to be like oh I did and so I can move on, not because I agree with it, I just don’t know what else to do… I’m really scared.
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Hey yall, having a tough time. I’ve been struggling with intrusive thoughts while I self pleasure and it GENUIENLY feels like I enjoy them for whatever reason. And then now about half an hour later it’s like okay it’s a sexual thought but I might not actually like it. Idk I just really hate myself, because I basically genuinely liked it in the moment
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I don’t know if my hormones are extra wild this month or what, but I have been having so many POCD thoughts lately. It feels like I enjoy them in the moment, and then a few seconds later, I get this tiny flicker of *wait I don’t think I actually want to enjoy that.* It’s scaring me a lot. I was watching adult videos for the first time in about a year, since I had been avoiding them because of my OCD. I know they are not good for anyone, but I felt like i could (ironically it felt like a tiny win that my OCD had calmed down enough). But while watching, I had like 3 separate POCD thoughts. And it felt like I liked them. Like genuinely *liked* them. I don’t know if maybe my body was mixing up physical pleasure and mental pleasure, and then my brain inserted those not okay thoughts into the situation, which got tangled up with the pleasure responses I felt mentally and physically. It is all really confusing. I just feel so scared. I know OCD thoughts are supposed to feel real, and that once you get desensitized to the anxiety, they lose their power. But this feels like I am *actually enjoying* the thoughts, and that makes me want to cry. I’m scared that I actually like these thoughts when I’m really aroused :( Please help.
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