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I just wanted to say—i am also an educator. Yay for teachers with OCD. 💕 sending you love
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Thank you! Right back at you! If I let myself, I’d never sleep just trying to prepare the “perfect” lessons because of OCD. But luckily, I now also know if I don’t sleep, the “perfect” lesson plan will be completely useless. It’s just another thing for us OCD sufferers to balance, but getting to teach makes fighting the OCD so worth it! Here’s to us both/all getting to enjoy the best parts of the best job! 💜
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So so true. I’m starting my 5th year this fall, and I feel like only this past year was I able to ease up on myself a bit with my lesson planning.
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Even my dog is getting flustered, but maybe I should follow suit and let out a big sigh like he does every time my husband clatters around.
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Are these things that are due tomorrow for school or work? In my opinion those take priority over household chores. Does he help with any of these household chores or is he complaining about them, expecting you to do them? Try talking to him, and explain that you have things that are due tomorrow and right now those are at the top of your list of things to do, and that as soon as you're done you can help him with the chores.
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Yes! The things at the top of my list are to prepare for teaching my classes, so kinda work and school. And this week will be the longest one for me yet. Last week by the 3rd day of classes, I was fighting off some creeping illnesses that debilitate me when I am too stressed and don’t sleep enough, so it’s imperative that I spend extra time before this upcoming full week to prepare more fully. Plus, if I barely have time to sleep because of lesson planning, teaching, and all the other administrative tasks, there is no way I’ll have time to even maintain any bit of a clean house! He does help a lot with our household chores. (He didn’t used to as much, but he’s also so happy that I’m working so much.). The problem is, some stuff he either hasn’t paid attention to how or where it goes before or it’s truly “my” stuff/mess. Now, a lot of that gets mixed in with “our” mess, but I understand his confusion. Though it would also help me if he at least told me he moved some of that, especially before he forgets where he put it, so I knew it still needed tending to. He and I chatted a few times, and his energy went from mopey to working, but then he sounded like a stressed out elephant who’s not aware of how he’s stomping or slamming things. Oddly, what’s helped the most right now is that after he cleaned a kitchen counter, he had a drink explode on it. This made him stomp more as he re-cleaned it. But then he knocked a drink over after recleaning it. That let him realize he did need to “pump the breaks” beyond just me trying to calmly talk it through with him. It also helped that he saw our dog was stressing too at how noisily and booming he was. While he cares about me more than any other creature on the planet, it’s sometimes hard to hear what’s essentially “calm down”. So luckily, the universe gave him some hints that didn’t come from me. Thank you so much for caring and your suggestions. While today is starting to look better, this is something that can often creep up on us, especially now that I’m working more. 💜
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Hi everyone. I’m having a really hard time today in my relationship. I am just feeling so frustrated by my back-and-forth feelings about my relationship. One day I’ll feel so good, and then the next I don’t at all. I think my biggest trigger in the house is the chores that the two of us have to do in the house. I’m much more of a clean person than my boyfriend is. I’m also thinking that he has ADHD and struggles to remember when to do specific chores and I have to remind him pretty often, but he will usually do it when I ask. Today, I’m on a huge spiral of telling myself that he is never gonna be able to learn to do things on his own, he’s not gonna be able to take care of our kids in the future If we do get married, he’s not gonna be able to help take care of our house when we do have one one day, And I am just exhausted. It’s so hard fighting these thoughts all day and then I feel like I have to sit down and talk to him about chores and obviously that doesn’t go well when I’m not feeling good. Definitely a compulsion… It feels so much better when I can just relax and just let him figure things out on his own, and I can just take care of myself. I also come from a household where I was constantly criticized and controlled in certain ways, so I have that to carry too…I’ve gotten much better at doing that most of the time but today is pretty bad. It always feels a little bit worse as well when I’m on my period and feeling very hormonal as well… Can anyone please shed some light on if they’ve experienced this before and any support they might be able to offer in relation to this? Anything would be helpful and please be kind!
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My husband suffers from SEVERE ADHD and he claims that he “forgets” whenever I ask him to do something like clean up after himself or pick up his clothes off the floor. But it’s everyday now and we’ve been together for a year going on 2. We also have a 5 month old and I feel like I’m going crazy worrying about my mental health and taking care of the baby AND still having to come home and worry about him. At this point I’m done telling him anything as he sees anything I say as me “attacking” him rather than me just telling him why I’m upset and that this is now affecting my happiness in this relationship. I no longer feel close or want closeness. I’ve also mentioned this to him and he doesn’t take me seriously. “All this, only because I don’t pick up after myself.” I get stressed very easily over the smallest things. I don’t know if I’m at fault and need to seek help for getting mad over small things or if he’s just not mature enough to own up and be responsible for himself(he’s younger than me). Am I overreacting? I’m just a very clean person and can’t stand that he’s a “I’ll clean it later” type of person and forgets. I just don’t feel I’m getting the support of a mature spouse. I want to lean on him and feel like I can’t do that. Like I have to everything myself. Does anyone else feel like this? PLEASE HELP. I’m reaching my limit and feel like I need to break things off.
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