How do you deal with toxic siblings? I’m sick of this at this point. I am christian so I just keep forgiving at forgetting but my sister has zero respect for me and she makes that clear day by day. She has never even made an apology or attempted to respect my boundaries and mocks me while I tell her them constantly. Whenever she does something I don’t like and I speak for myself, she becomes rude and either mocks me or intentionally sings and speaks over me. I’m not even given the opportunity to share how I feel. I refuse to continue being treated like this.

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

I have a very very toxic little sister. I’m 24. Shes 22. She hangs out with the wrong crowd and she puts our family/home at risk. She has hit me, she’s cussed me out, said awful things to hurt me. And I have tried time and time again to help her or be close to her but it’s become weird and I feel this hate for her and in the end I feel so damn guilty. I’ve cut her off for about 3 weeks now? Because I got hurt by her ex boyfriend who beat her up and hit too for trying to help and she got mad at me for not being there for her. I have felt anxiety from it but I can’t have her in my life. My parents don’t seem to care and never do anything so sometimes, it’s just be to remove yourself no matter how hard that is

pai 😽

Date posted: 4y

I’m sorry you’re going through this I can’t imagine how wracking it must be 🤎 Me and my sister are still teenagers so we still live together so I’m not sure how I would cut her off. Anyways I wish us both the best.

pai 😽

Date posted: 4y

Being around her is always draining my mood/energy and she’s always purposely aggravating me. I’m a worse person around her. I want to become a better person but people like these drag you down.

pai 😽

Date posted: 4y

Also she’s very hot and cold. One hour she’s purposely disrespecting me and being rude. The next she’s texting me memes and videos or trying to just talk to me casually and it makes me mad.

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

have you tried talking to her and tell her how you feel about her? talking could do something. if you already tried i would say bring a parent or guardian into the situation and hash it out all together or if you have a therapist you could always talk to them and get some tips on how to get a better relationship with your sister

pai 😽

Date posted: 4y

I always always try. I’ve been trying for years. Everytime I do she runs away (she’s not a little kid she’s just immature) or she purposely talks/sings loudly over me and covers her ears. Many times I’ve just wanted to kindly talk but she doesn’t let me. She says I’m looking for “fights and problems” meanwhile I’m just trying to solve them since communication is important.

pai 😽

Date posted: 4y

I’ve talked to my parents aswell but I’m open to trying again. Before everyone in my family would be it on me and say I’m problematic because she would start a fight to get me mad but as soon as another family member came she would stop talking to look all innocent. They would even badmouth me and talk about how problematic and troublesome I was and apologize to her. So people only ever saw my reaction never what she did before that. But recently she’s been doing that infront of our parents and now thankfully when they see they say something to her and tell her to stop.

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

@pai 😽 i’m sorry:( i’ve had similar issues with my siblings too. yeah i would try talking to her again and go from there. also if you can i recommend therapy that can help too!

pai 😽

Date posted: 4y

@sb12367 I’ll maybe talk to my parents but I’m not talking to her again. I made this original post after talking to her. I did the same thing last night. She doesn’t listen she doesn’t change she doesn’t think she’s in the wrong. I’ve explained myself many times at this point I give up on doing that. Thank you so much for helping tho 🖤🖤

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