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Ben, I want to tell you that there is no shame in being alone or introverted! I’ve never been on a date myself because of my fears of socializing with people but I wish for the very best for you!
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Thanks 🙂
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No not Ben!!! I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. I thought you went on a date a couple weeks ago? Remember there’s no right time to find your person! Maybe find ways to make more friends I’m sure you would feel less lonely just having friends
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Thanks 🙂
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@Ben84 I know you can do this💗 you’re never alone! If I lived near you I’d be your friend for sure
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“Isn’t it ironic? Don’t ya think?” Just like the rest of that song, it’s not actually ironic that the blahs can overwhelm us. And yes, “us”; you are not alone in feeling overwhelmed and not being able to point out why, even feeling overwhelmed when “on paper” it doesn’t look like we even have much going on. Talking with people is hard! But look at how well you’ve made connections here! Sure, we have anonymity here. Sure, it’s a format where we can respond in our own measure. BUT IT’S STILL SOCIAL INTERACTION! The anonymity is so we can more easily share about our OCD with people who understand that a horrible thought isn’t the same as a true desire, and that it’s not “weird” when we suddenly seem frozen by a seemingly arbitrary “rule”. So this site is social, but it’s also so much deeper than general social niceties. I think of you as my friend, and I would absolutely choose to spend time with you! I’m sorry you have to wait so long between appointments. I’m here to help you pass that anxious time, and I’m sure so many other of your FRIENDS here are here for you now as you always are for us! I also know what it feels like when those blahs make doing any activity you usually enjoy seem pointless. Here’s a suggestion: Do it anyway! Sometimes we can trick the blahs and actually have a moment where we enjoy ourselves before the blahs realize they let it slip. My FRIEND, I wish you find a knife among all those 10,000 spoons when you need one. I also wish that you learn, sometimes you can actually cut something with one of those spoons when you can’t find that knife. Outsider think our OCD makes us inflexible, they just don’t see how adaptable we are because they don’t see the internal forces we fight and flex against so vastly while externally seeming stuck. 💜💪🏼
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This one also helps nudge me to DO IT ANYWAY... https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=mEyrfFwf3rI
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@ARTnotOCD Thanks friend. I appreciate it 🙂!
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OCD can be so isolating. I’m in a health anxiety spiral and struggling at work. I feel like I am failing everywhere and feeling very alone. My support system is tired of hearing about my fears, health wise and work wise. I find myself crying a lot. I don’t particularly enjoy doing anything anymore. I feel like I just can’t get comfortable in my skin or my head sometimes. I’m not sure how to else to describe it. Like nothing soothes me or makes it better. Even sleep is bad dreams and waking up anxious all night. I’ve always felt different from everyone else but when I’m on meds I can fake it better and I feel more connected. I want to go back on SSRI’s but I’ve been dealing with health issues and the meds exacerbate them so am delaying for the time being
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I’m 21. The 3 year anniversary of my graduation from high school is soon. Lately, I’ve been worried about where I’m going in life and if it’s even worth it because I don’t know why I exist or what my purpose is After graduating I lost a new job I loved due to poor management on my boss’s side, they failed to teach me my job then fired me for it, and moved from my mom’s house into my dads house due to issues with my stepdad, both of which put me into a depression. I got a new job 3 months later. But ever since being fired and moving out, I feel like I’ve been in a depressive cycle of Eat, Sleep, Work, Repeat. I’ll get home and doomscroll for hours, and occasionally play games with friends at nights. Occasionally I’ll do my hobbies but usually feel guilty for it. I don’t see my friends and family nearly as much as I used to. I want to, but it feels like everything I want to do, my intrusive thoughts find a way to keep me at home. “It’s a waste of time.” “You need to be productive on your time off or you’ll go nowhere in life so stay home.” But then if I stay home it’s “you need to go out and do something.” “You’re being unproductive sitting at home all day.” “Seeing them wont make you feel better, you’ll never be happy” My girlfriend lives 6 hours away and is usually the only time I’d go outside and live and feel in the moment, but even then I’d feel guilt. I feel like my OCD makes me feel guilty for everything. She’s helped me a lot, but lately we’ve had a few issues we’ve worked past that made me fear for losing her too. I’ve felt depressed for years now. Before being fired, I usually felt pretty good and was almost normal feeling. I’d had control over my fears and intrusive thoughts of suicide and the meaning of life, and had accepted them and wasn’t afraid. I knew it wasn’t me. But lately I’ve been trying to push myself out of this depressive cycle, and it’s made my OCD and fears of suicide and if life has meaning, come right back. I’m handling it slightly better, but it’s still hard. I just want to move past this and stop questioning why I’m even doing anything, if I want to end it all, when I know for certain I don’t want to and that I get to make my own meaning in life. I have dreams, I want to get back into art. I want to move in with my girlfriend eventually and start a family. But my OCD makes me so scared to even try to make art, and it makes me so scared I won’t be happy or content with my dreams. I feel so alone and sad. I feel like life will pass me by while I’m stuck feeling this sad and scared. It sucks, but I’m trying my best to get there. Gotta keep moving
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